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Grief is a normal and natural reaction to loss. It is not a mental health problem, and needs to be experienced like all the emotions that we experience in our life. Only when it becomes complicated grief which in an ongoing, heightened state of mourning occurring even months after the loss, and which is disabling and severe, does it become a mental health problem. Please read the below linked book to know how to best deal with loss and normal grief. This book will also help you clarify your values and how to pursue your goals based on your values and get things done. However if you think you have complicated grief, in addition to reading the below linked book you may need to see a therapist in your location.
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Hello and thanks for writing to us. I am sorry you are feeling so down. Based on some of the things you are saying, I think it is quite possible that you are suffering from depression. Depression could explain why you feel so unmotivated, hopeless, "off", lacking your old fire, etc. Grief alone typically does not have such an impact on one's general feelings or personality a year later so while naturally you are experiencing and coping with loss, the weight of the situation could have put your mind into a depressed state. Absolutely situational things and sad times can be the primer for depression to start even if it had not previously been a factor.
I definitely feel like you may benefit from talking to your primary care doctor about depression and possible medication to help you over this hump in life. And it is never to early to talk to a mental health professional, as you suggest at the end. Severe, not severe, complicated or not, a therapist could do wonders to help you cope and process all that has gone on so you can ultimately find peace with the past and look forward to the future again.
You don't have to do this alone. there is support in the community for helping people through tough times. If it is depression, medication and counseling can help you through this so you feel back to your old self and able to tackle life agian. Thanks for stepping up today and asking. I think the fact that you wrote says enough that you are in need of some extra support and now would be a great time to seek it.
Please let me know if I can help any further,