Thank you Johnathan for all of this good, detailed information. A behavior is a problem t the degree that it causes the individual problems or discomfort int heir lives. i can clearly hear how distressing this is to you. I would like to make some suggestions to you that may help you achieve your desire of being abstinent from masturbation. I will address the spiritual, physical and mental components that may lead to change for you/ i will prepare my recommendations to you now.
Taking spiritual action:
Johnathan, we are none of us evolved to perfection being the flawed human beings that we are. Our flaws and imperfections keep us humble and our ego's in check. We can only hope to continually make progress in the spiritual direction we hope/pray for. It is in our struggle and suffering that we can come to rely on and trust in God for his strength, forgiveness and kindness. I would like to suggest to you that you begin to pray each day for the willingness to overcome the behavior(s) you wish to change. And that God's will be done in your life, not yours. I like to suggest to my clients who are faith based people that they have a God jar and put whatever they can not handle themselves into the jar and surrender the problem or issue to their faith. Remember faith is a decision not a feeling.
It may be helpful for you to make a list of all of the things you get out of your continued behavior. We do not continue a behavior unless we get something out of it. So relieving stress is one thing you may get out of continuing to masturbate. You would then need to come up with a plan to compensate for each thing you get out of the behavior. For example; you would need to put a plan in place to compensate for what you are giving up. it would also be beneficial if you could let at least one other person know about the changes you are trying to make to gain their support and to build in accountability. maybe an elder at your church that you trust.
You may want to listen to a tape until you fall asleep, that is spiritual or empowering in nature for yourself. be patient with yourself, the more you beat yourself up for giving in the more power and energy you give to the behavior. You are making progress, you have over come a lot already, be grateful for the changes and know you are on the path to growing even more closer to who you want to be.
I hope these suggestions are helpful to you and make sense. Please let me know if there is anything else I can help you with. i would appreciate you taking a moment to rate my service to you as this is the only way we are compensated. I truly appreciate it. Sincerely, ***** ***** LMSW, CASAC
Hello Johnathan, I am wondering how you are doing and if you found any part of my answer helpful to you. Please feel free to ask any other related question if you would like, i am here for you. Sincerely, ***** ***** LMSW, CASAC