Hello and thank you for writing to us. My name is ***** ***** i'd like to help. I am so sorry you are experiencing these struggles in your marriage now, and also in your past. You did not then and do not now deserve to be abused. He is absolutely emotionally and physically abusing you. He is also physically abusing your child, which could cause life-long detriments to their stability and well-being.
In cases like this, it is rare that the abuser will change as they will never take responsibility for their actions and will instead make you feel like it was your fault that he hit you. He is already doing this and blaming you for the abuse and problems in your marriage and lying to others about your behavior. Because he so freely emotionally and physically hurts you and your child now, there is a chance that his behavior may escalate, putting you further at risk.
I know this is a very difficult time for you and i trust you have a very hard decision ahead of you. My advice to you is to leave this marriage and seek the relationship you deserve with a man who loves you and will not abuse you. Hopefully, you can take the baby with you to protect and nurture them. If you are not yet prepared to leave, you do have the choice of staying and tolerating the abuse but the abuse of the child is absolutely not acceptable and this should be clearly explained to your husband. You can try giving ultimatums/threats about leaving if he doesn't seek help for his anger/abuse issues, but he has to want to change and be motivated to seek treatment for these issues on his own. If he does not want to change, does not think there is a problem, or believes it is generally acceptable for men to treat their wives this way, then I worry you and your children will be forced to live a life in fear as victims which is really a very sad and unfair thing.
I hope this is helpful and reinforces your thoughts that leaving may be for the best. You and your children deserve better.
I look forward to hearing back from you. Sincerely,
I noticed this question was still open and wondered if i could assist further. I know things are difficult for you. Please let me know. Sincerely,