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Sorry for the delay. This sounds like a very hard situation. Perhaps your girlfriend leaving offers you a good opportunity to reflect on the cycle of ups and downs you have had to try to decide if this really is the relationship you want to stay in. If it is, then i definitely advice you give her the space she has asked for and you have committed to. With all do respect, your girlfriend is at a turning point where she needs to decide if she wants to stay and it sounds like your past treatment of her has made her question whether you are her future or not. This is probably what she tried to convey to you when she acted cold and uncaring.
Since you seem committed to wanting her back, I would honor her need for space and wait out the 2 weeks without additional contact. While you are waiting, you should come up with a plan about how you are going to make positive change to treat her better and show her more respect so you don't continue to engage in this cycle of cursing at her, making her cry, then asking for forgiveness. In two weeks, tell her how much she means to you and how you intend to be better and then prove it to her. It may be that you commit to couples or even individual counseling as proof that you want to be better.
I know this may not be exactly what you want to hear but based on what you have said, it is likely your girlfriend is really contemplating a future with you and if you want to be part of it, you will need to show positive change and commitment. Words are only words and promises are empty if time has shown patterns of behavior that has been unfavorable. But a well-thought out plan with demonstrations of how you plan to be better may allow her to trust you again so you can move forward together.
Everything is a chance to learn and grow. Perhaps for you, this break will allow you a chance to figure out how to nurture this woman who you so clearly cherish.
I bet she is being sincere when she tells you she still loves you. And yes, there is a definite chance that she will come back to you but I doubt it will last if there isn't meaningful behavior change on your side. If she is fed up now, it isn't likely her patience will last for ever and ultimately, she won't be able to forgive. Her response to you just shows that she is frustrated and hurting but it also implies that she would have been receptive if she had believed it had come from you. That is a good sign. The good thing is that you can control how you treat her in the future and therefore, the relationship really rests in your hands. So make the most of it!
As far as your depression, this separation is very hard and you are feeling that. The intensity of emotions and loss can feel really overwhelming. Time will help with this grief so if it doesn't turn out she is ready to give you another chance, please be assured that you are strong enough to survive and you will get through it. And while you wait, just take it easy on yourself. focus on distraction, getting some food, exercising, and resting enough. Meeting your basic needs and trying to stay busy will help you along as these days pass.
Hi, I just wanted to check in to see how your last few days have gone. I hope they have been okay for you,