I am so sorry to hear of this fracture in your relationship with your daughter and she has been listening to only one version of the events that led to this break. It is excruciating for you. I think she probably needs some time...yes it has been some time, but maybe she needs more. And maybe you send her a heartfelt note...a note filled with your love and care and asking her to hear her feelings. A letter that does not ask her to hear your side as it sounds to me like she doesn't want that...so it may be where you reach out with this heartfelt note, acknowledge her feelings of hurt and let her know you are ready, willing and able to hear her feelings and will be open to hearing anything and everything she has to say.
How can I support you further?