Hello, my name is ***** ***** I am a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in New York State. Thank you for reaching out to Just Answer regarding your concerns with your relationship. This is not a live chat, this is a question and answer format. However we could do live chat if you would like. I will wait to hear from you before responding to you question regarding codependency issues. Sincerely, ***** ***** LMSW, CASAC
It does but I can just add $22.00 extra if it would help you, instead of the usual $50-$80. I would not be available until 2:15pm EST, i am meeting with a private client for the next hour. I will do whatever is best for you and gets you the answers you are looking for to help you in your relationship. I will send you the offer and if you want the live chat, you will just need to accept it. Please leave your phone number and the best time to call you after 2:15pm. Sincerely, Linda
we could talk for 30 minutes, but I would also want to make sure you had your questions, etc. answered. Or we can just continue here with the Q and A. Linda
Okay, no problem. You shared that you are dating "bpd", are you referring to a person with Borderline Personality Disorder?
The reason I asked, is that individuals with BPD can not maintain stable relationships and their partners often feel like they are on emotional rollercoasters. Is it the instability in the relationship that is causing you to have a "normal" reaction of anxiety? You also mentioned co-dependency, have you been treated for this with a therapist?
Yes, which then makes the situation worse I am sure. May I ask how old you are and how long you and your girlfriend have been together?
have you had a history of unstable relationships and/or anxiety when the other person wants to be able to have separate space, etc from the relationship?
Yes, I can tell this hurts you, but sometimes people really do need space from the relationship they are in to focus on their own needs and growth and the best thing you can do is focus on using this time to develop who you are. A relationship can only be as interesting, strong, healthy and fulfilling as the people in it. Try to see this time as an opportunity to do something new or reconnect iwth friends/family. She may even admire your for this instead of feeling frustrated that you are upset. Does this make sense? Linda