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I don't hear that you are overreacting at all. He seems to have the need to control all things and people around him and is unable to handle when he is being challenged or needs to be more mutual. I don't hear a lot of mutuality there and then you are left feeling more like his child rather than his partner. Why he behaves this way may have to do with some internal things going on for him which causes him to need this control and dominance but for any relationship to thrive there needs to be mutuality. Rather than go to him about each detail, I would have, in a quiet and loving moment let him know how you feel around this behavior and how it is hurting you as an individual and the relationship. I know you have not had success talking to him, but maybe the focus of those discussions were around the details of each incident as it comes up...I suggest talking to how small you feel around being managed and controlled on everything.
So glad I can support you. I am also glad to hear that you have that loving heart and want to support him, so go to him with that empathy and love. I hope things can ease up within himself so he can ease up on those around him.
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