I am sorry to hear of this change for your son and the rest of the family. It sounds like he may be dealing with some depression but if he won't go back to any kind of treatment then you are at a loss. I understand you losing your temper and I know you know that won't help....he is going through something and may need the time he is asking to have. does that mean you need to give it? That is a personal choice. I have worked with many parents that have decided not to enable the behavior and have asked that they live on their own and find their own way? does that work? sometimes and sometimes it doesn't. Do you have the stomach for that extreme position? Only you can answer that. Of course I believe he would be helped by therapy but if he refuses then you are at a loss. So it is up to you and your family about how you want to proceed and to continue to help him or not.
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