She is very loving to him and she sees herself as providing a routine and structure. She does not see being in certain places at certain times as part of a routine. It seems that she thinks it is okay and not part of a routine to sleep in a specific place and bed as part of a routine. The routine she does have is meals at a certain time. Otherwise baths etc. as a routine is non existent.
She does not get that what is on the T.V. is absorbed even if he is unable to understand.
I chose not to do a phone call as I need to be able to pass on the information in print so she knows what we have both talked about. I will not go behind her back.
She does not believe she needs a parenting course.
I am frightened for both of them.
I was hoping that I would get specifics like. The baby needs to be able to trust that he will sleep in such and such a place every ..... night. Since their are two parent involved. I would think he would do best if there was a routine as to when he would be with which parent and in what bed.
Needless to say this is stressing me out. I love both of them.
My daughter had a similar way of raising my granddaughter, hence her anxiety disorder. It is killing me to watch it happen again and yet in Canada grandparents have absolutely no rights.
I am loosing hope.
Too bad I can not pay for a response. I have already spent more than I can afford.
Good by sad
, disheartened, and frightened.