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Hello and thank you for using JustAnswer. I can tell you that outside of the head is not real as all of the alters encompass the same mind, just at different times and in different responses to specific situations as well. I am not sure why your husband said that, but it could have been an alter using his voice and many alters do not use a different voice or it is possible your husband is just confused as DID can be disorienting for some. May I ask, is your husband currently seeking treatment and if so what type of treatment?
I know you want to help your husband, but you have to understand that DID is a very complicated disorder with a controversial history and treatment presence as most researchers and psychologists/psychiatrists cannot agree on any form of treatment to help a patient. But there is a consensus that most people with DID who are not in treatment never recover and will worsen as they age. I would recommend taking your husband to a psychologist that specializes in DID as the combination of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Hypnotherapy and/or Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) may be employed as a way to help process the traumas in his past and lessen the presence of the alters or in a sense reuniting them to one functioning personality/identity. A psychiatrist can also be used for medication management to help lessen comorbid disorders like PTSD, Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), etc... because when his stressors are lessened than typically the alters will not be present as much. Remember you are only his partner, not his mental health professional so taking him to see the right professional for treatment is going to be paramount here. If he has a heart disorder you would take him to see a cardiologist, same applies here except the problem lies in the most complicated part of his body which is the brain.
The reason that specific treatment for DID has not been well established is because this is a complicated and controversial disorder so typically the behavioral therapy approaches are more eclectic and vary depending on the person. If you just want to focus on what you can do as a layperson for your husband, I would recommend continuing to reassure him that you are always there for him, write small notes in the morning or send random text messages during the day to see how he is doing or just because you were thinking of him. This will lessen his stress about you and will consider you more of a consistent presence in his life which will cause him not to worry about the relationship you have and will also lessen the chance for the alters to appear because of the relationship...alters may still appear at random or in response to other outside stressors, but that is beyond your or his control. Another thing that may be an option would be to consider adding either Valerian Root or Picamilon to his day time regimen as these are natural supplements that can lessen anxiety/stress which will lessen the presence of the alters. Obviously treatment is not an option here as therapy for DID takes on average 2-5 years to be successful, but lessening his overall distress and dissociation would be ideal and these tips could help him.
You can contact customer service regarding your dissatisfaction and a refund. This is only a Q&A service, not a treatment service and what your husband needs is systematic treatment, once you and he realize that then he will be able to heal and move forward. Good luck to both of you
I have no control over the conversation being public, as that was in the disclaimer before you posted your question. You can ask customer service to remove it from public view though, but individual experts have no control over what is posted to the public. I am sorry you felt I was not of help, but like I said only systematic treatment can help your husband and I think you misunderstood the nature of how this Q&A website works.
Again experts have no control of what the website posts or not, that is up to the administration of the website, not the individual experts. I see no previous questions in your history, maybe you had a different account before.
Once again, you will have to contact customer service regarding the removal of an entire conversation.
Well I have no control over what questions were removed or not as that is beyond the power of an expert on this website. Please consult with customer service and for your husband consult with an individual psychologist in your area regarding treatment.