My fiancé is texting and talking to her kids dad more than kids related stuff. In the beginning of our relationship she was only talking or texting him just about the kid but now 1.5 year later she is talking to him about her work and how she felt about the past and her feelings about their past and sometimes they go on a lunch date (according to her it's just for the kid). I talked to her about how I feel about this person. He is manipulative and a player.
The reason I can't stand this looser is bc when her kid was 8 months old one day he changed the lock and kicked her out with the 8 months old baby. She was homeless for 3 weeks (she was living in her car with her baby) and now after 3 years he is trying to get close to her by texting her I love you I miss you and using the kid to see her and talk to her.
What bother me the most is that she delete his "sweet" text messages that he send and she reply back.
I asked her if their is any thing she wants to tell about her ex and about their sweet conversation she no their is nothing at all.
After I told her I know about it she got very uncomfortable and said she deleted them bc she didn't want me to see the txt and get upset about.
We are in the middle of planing our wedding and now I see this red flags.
(She goes out of her way to please him...for example if he needs a ride to work or she would call and make a doctor app for him bc he had a cold)
Is this normal?
Why would she care so much about the person that made her and their baby homeless?
I fell like she is disrespecting me by allowing him to flirt with her and makes me angry that after all he did
to her and their kid she is still trying to keep him happy.
How should I handle this situation?