Is my girlfriend autistic?
We've been having problems lately. I always thought she was just very recluse/introvert and overly emotional, but I feel like something else is a factor. On the surface she just seems quiet, and I thought that was just a symptom of her sheltered, somewhat-religious upbringing.
I looked up symptoms of autism
and a lot them ring true for her.
She has problems carrying conversation, often gives short answers and kind of nods along to an almost 1-sided conversation. If you ask her a question, she'll not know what to say when holding an emotional conversation. I'll pause and wait for her to process her thoughts, which takes minutes sometimes, and even that is a short answer. She'll often get emotional (not angry or outwardly, but internally) over triggers such as her posture or even seemingly harmless topics. She's not seeking attention as she often tries to bury it, but she silently weeps because of emotional overload. She also tends to avoid eye contact.
She's intelligent, graduated college, reads a ton, and is still able to hold jobs in retail and tutors, so if she does have an impairment, it's not debilitating, but our relationship has suffered because of her inability to connect. I care strongly for her and feel maybe knowing what's wrong could be a way to help make things work.