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Hello and thank you for using JustAnswer. I am sorry that you are having this difficulty with your partner, I can understand how distressing this can be for you. It sounds like you and your partner have different definitions of what is fun and what is considered acceptable boundaries in a relationship. While your partner is the "partier," you may be more mellow, which is why you may be attracted to your partner because he provides a different dimension to your life than what you are used to. I do not think either of you are wrong since your behavior is determined by personal preference, but I do feel you both need to communicate and get on the same page on what is acceptable and what is not in this relationship. If you both work on a compromise on what he can and cannot do without you, and with you the same, than maybe you both will come to some understanding and help move the relationship forward. Like I said, I do not think your reaction is necessarily wrong, but more it is just different than what your partner considers normal. Do you think he would be open to compromising a bit on your concerns so that he can still have a good time with his friends, but not necessarily cross any boundaries (e.g. fu**ing on the dance floor)?
I hope this helps to provide you some guidance on this issue.
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