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Hello and thank you for using JustAnswer. I am sorry that you are having this issue with your daughter, I can understand how distressing this can be for you. May I ask, what is your specific mental health question that you would like an answer to in regards ***** ***** situation?
I do have experience in this matter, but unfortunately reconnecting with her is not your responsibility as she is the one that has made the choice in cutting off contact, and that means she must be the one who decides to reconnect with you. You can say and do everything right and perfect, but in the end the choice is still your daughter's to make. You have written letters and have tried to see her and your grand-child, to which she has said no, but she knows what you want. Now it is going to be up to her to reconnect with you when she chooses. Also given that you are unaware of why she shut you out of her life shows a lack of communication with you and probably others since I am assuming no one else has told you why she has taken this action. The only other option I can see is that in some states there is a legal requirement for grandparent visitation of your grandchild if there was a previous relationship and you stated that you had a relationship with your grand child for the first 6 months of his/her life, so it is possible you could reconnect with your grand-child legally, but not your daughter unless she chooses to.
I am very sorry that your daughter is being this vindictive towards you and holding on to this anger. Unfortunately if she still has this anger towards you though, than she is not going to listen to reason to try to communicate with you to resolve this matter, it is much easier for her to hold on to the anger and push you out. I know this is very hard for you, but the only way to resolve this matter is for her to at least try to communicate with you and let go of that anger, which she appears unwilling to do.
You have already tried to communicate with her by sending letters and trying to talk to her face to face which has not worked. You even asked others to try to talk to her, which has not changed your daughter's stance either. If you continue to try to contact her than that will only push her away farther from you, so yes unfortunately you will have to wait and hope that she changes her mind and at least tries to let go of her anger. Just like you are the only person in control of your actions and behavior, she is the only one in control of her actions and that is why she must make the decision to let go of this anger and try to resolve the matter with you.
Most do, but of course it depends on the individual. I cannot predict when or if your daughter will let go of her anger because I have never met her nor have I ever spoken to her about this issue.
Its possible, but without knowing what you did it is hard for you to address that and her lack of communication does not help the matter at all.
I agree that you want to fix it, but if you try to contact her when she does not want that, it will only increase her anger of you and will push her farther away from you. It is a frustrating situation just waiting, but at this point it is all you can do. You cannot fix this when your daughter is not ready to communicate with you.
You can continue to try to contact others who have a relationship with your daughter to see if you can find out why she has broken off contact and to see if she would be willing to communicate with you in the near future, but as for direct contact with her I would not recommend that at all as she has made it clear that she does not want that.
You are most welcome, I wish you all the best and I hope your daughter will decide to contact you soon. Happy Holidays :)
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