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Hello and thank you for using JustAnswer. I am very sorry that your friend is struggling with these symptoms of his Schizophrenia, I can understand how distressing this can be for him and you as well. Codependency is a difficult issue to overcome, and nearly everyone cannot overcome it on their own given that their are many underlying issues that cause the codependency. Have you every tried therapy or willing to undergo therapy with a psychologist that specializes in Codependency to help you break away? Have you read any materials on codependency to help you try to break away?
So if you have tried it "all" than there is not much else you can do to break away. Loving someone is completely different than being codependent as your codependency is a element of an unhealthy relationship that is typically one-sided and possibly destructive for you. Codependency is where you give up your individuality for the other person and the relationship, which makes it all the more difficult to break away because part of your identity will be taken away too. This is why you must continue with more indepth therapy as this is a systematic process of treatment. In addition, you may also want to consider group therapy or support groups as well as the addition of that to your treatment regimen can be more helpful for you. Researching it and knowing how codependency works is not enough,as you have to start treating the issue with therapy to help you break away.
I am sorry you feel that way. I understand how difficult this is for you, but there is a limit to this forum as it is only a Q&A forum, so I was only doing my best to answer your question of how to break away. Its impossible to provide a step by step plan as this is deeply organic issue that will evolve over time and that is why you need to seriously consider more indepth therapy for treatment and to help you break away. I wish you all the best.
Like I said there is a limit to what can be done in this type of Q&A forum. I understand that you want something more indepth, but you have to admit this is a complicated issue that has spanned years so a simple answer for that is nearly impossible. As I stated before there is no step by step plan on how to break away, and the only viable answer to your specific question is that you need to consider more indepth therapy and a more focus on breaking away and following through with that. I am sure you can write a novel about your experiences with this individual, which just shows how complicated this is and why a simple answer to this complicated issue is near impossible. You may have possibly misunderstood the nature of this website as we only provide specific answers to specific questions and with mental health treatment it is not so cut and dry like that.
Its the only viable answer unfortunately and the only thing that will work for you. Good luck and i wish you all the best.
You stated that you have "tried it all" and then you explained how well versed you are in mental health and codependency. So any materials or research I provide for you would have only been redundant. Therapy is dynamic and can be individualized to the specific person, which is why it will be helpful to you and that is a professional opinion. I wish this forum provided therapy, but unfortunately it does not so all i can do is suggest it.