Hello, my name is***** am a Licensed Psychologist and I will be helping you today. Please note, our interaction should not be considered a substitute for mental health treatment. You may need to seek treatment from a professional in your area. This is not a private forum and your confidentiality cannot be protected here. Thank you for sharing details about what is obviously a painful situation for you. Did you have a specific question for me, or would you like some general advice related to your options in this situation?
Barbara, it sounds as if you are experiencing symptoms of anxiety. While antidepressants can mitigate some of those symptoms, you may need to consult with your doctor about a medication specifically intended to reduce anxiety. There are also some really good relaxation exercises you can do throughout the day that can help as well. Check into Diaphragmatic Deep Breathing and Progressive Muscle Relaxation on You Tube. You will find a ton of videos on this subject. While friends are wonderful sources of support and great to share with, a trained therapist might be a good option for you right now. They can offer objective advice, help you build self-confidence, and teach you further options for reducing your anxiety. You may even be allowed to invite your husband into your session so that you can get some assistance in talking with him about your concerns. Your doctor may be able to refer you or you can always Google "Therapist" in your city and state. You're right about one thing, there are no silver bullets and it takes a lot of strength to keep moving forward when you're hurting like this. Kudos to you! Can I answer any further questions for you?