Customer: My husband and I have been separated for about a year. He recently told me he has a girlfriend and I am stunned. We have two grown and flown children and I see him almost everyday. It is hard for me to get my head around him having a female friend, I cry when I think about it. I am 64 and have no desire to date. We had a rough marriage but he has softened over the years. We had to separate as we were getting so mean with each other. I initiated the separation but it is a financial struggle. We celebrate holidays together with our kids and we do see each other almost every day, I just do not know when I will feel ok about the girlfriend. He tells me it will not change anything between us, ha! East for him to say. I have been through a lot in the last three years....I feel pretty lost. ***** *****
JA: Thanks. Can you give me any more details about your issue?
Customer: Alan, my husband is very aloof and does not talk about anything related to relationship. I had to squeeze it out of him that he loved me once. Otherwise he just clams up. He was never very affectionate and did
not like being a dad until the kids grew up. He also was an internet gaming addict for many years to the exclusion of his young family. I grew resentful but still tried to ignore it until the resentment turned to rage. I feel the relationship was me, the two kids and the backside of Alan for 30 years. I do resent the fact that he is moving on but I am rankled by it. We have many things in common and share certain intellectual sensibilities. I miss his company but like I said it was spent in his room at the computer most of our lives. I think I miss the idea of him more than the reality. We have been married 32 years.
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