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Hello and thank you for using JustAnswer. I am very sorry that you are having this issue with your boyfriend, I can understand how distressing this can be for you. Unfortunately it sounds like that you are willing to compromise on this issue, but that it is your boyfriend who is not willing to compromise and work with you on resolving these arguments. You only have control over your own actions and behavior, just like he is the only one that has control over his actions and that means only he can choose to stop this behavior. I would highly recommend that you both consider entering into couples therapy so that he can realize how hurtful his actions can be to you and to help you both improve your communication skills so that these arguments occur less frequently in the future. I know you do not want to lose your boyfriend, but the decision for him to stop this behavior lies solely with him, so you cannot put so much pressure on yourself to resolve this issue as it takes both of you to work together.
Remember you cannot change him if he does not want to change. If you have difficulty communicating to him, maybe you should consider writing him a letter as that can be a forum where you can unload all your thoughts and feelings about this situation without any fear of him interrupting or rushing you for a response. Overall though you can say everything right and be perfect in your rationale, but in the end the decision to respect you more and lessen this behavior is up to him.