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Hello, I am sorry that you are struggling with your marriage and lack of support, I can understand how distressing this can be for you. Instead of couples therapy you should really consider going to just individual therapy and looking at your local community center/women's shelter for support groups as that may be helpful for you. Unfortunately this website is not affiliated with Gary Chapman at all and it is doubtful if he has any seminars in your area...either way you probably would not benefit from the long-term with those seminars and you should really consider individual therapy away from your husband completely so you can just focus on you and you alone.
Unfortunately you are putting all this pressure on yourself to make the marriage work and while I admire your desire to repair this marriage, your husband has no desire to maintain good boundaries and to show you respect. You have to understand you are the only person responsible for your actions alone, just like your husband is the only person responsible for his actions...so when he decides to abuse you in this way, that is his choice and than means only he can choose to stop this behavior. So if your husband is not going to accept responsibility for his actions and to change his behavior than that is on him, not you. I know you have deep feelings for God and divorce and while you may feel divorce is against God's wishes, it is also against God's wish for your husband to treat you in this manner. Right now you have to look at the plausible situation and see that if your husband is not going to put forth the effort to reconcile and change his ways than your marriage will never heal because it takes both of you to heal a marriage. So a separation of healing will not work if your husband is not putting in that effort to truly heal this marriage, as he is being selfish and just wants to continue to abuse and control you because that is the choice he has made.
Sorry it is not feasible for me to make an international phone call at this time. I am based in the U.S. and I only provide local country calls at this point.
I opened up your phone call request for other experts, so it is possible another expert will take it for you. I am only limited by the system here which is why I type out my responses. I would still highly recommend that you focus on yourself and seek out more individualized therapy