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Hello and thank you for using JustAnswer. I am very sorry that you are having this issue with sexual arousal and overall self-esteem. Has the group therapy been effective for you? Have you considered that maybe you were traumatized at a young age because of how you were treated by your first sexual experience and your family bullying you, and this trauma could lead to your sexual issues? Lastly have you tried to talk to your doctor about trying an antidepressant?
I would highly recommend that you contact a Sex Therapist or perhaps a therapist that focuses on sexual trauma in childhood and to see if they provide a sliding scale which can be at a reduced rate for you. It sounds like you were sexually assaulted at 11 years old and this may have contributed to your lack of arousal this time. Since you want to understand the core issues of this than I would recommend entering into individual therapy, which may take months to help you overcome this issue and move forward from it.
You are most welcome, I truly wish you all the best and I hope you and your partner will be able to overcome this together.
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