*This website DOES NOT constitute treatment and only provides information and advice in a Q&A format. For treatment (therapy and/or medications) you must go to a licensed professional in your area. Please note that anything said here is not private or confidential, as this is a public forum.Hello, I am sorry that your partner is experiencing this level of disgust and resentment towards sexual intercourse. It sounds like the trauma of the emotional and sexual abuse she suffered as a child has led to this issue with experiencing sexual arousal/pleasure. Has she ever thought about entering into psychotherapy with a professional that can help treat the underlying causes from the past abuse so that she can move forward and experience sexual pleasure fully?
Thank you for your response. Unfortunately if your partner is not willing to work on this issue or is content with being "asexual," than there may not be a lot you can do to help the situation as this issue is with her and that means only she can work to resolve it. If she is not willing to do that than that is the choice she has made and one she wants to live by for the immediate future. Your frustration is completely natural as sexual intimacy is a major part of any healthy relationship, so you really do have a limited choice of options on if you want to stay with her where most likely your sexual frustration will continue (and may worsen) or you have to consider ending the relationship and moving forward with your life because not all of your needs are being met. I know it is a difficult and one can say unfair choice, but your biological needs for sexual intimacy is natural and most likely will not go away any time soon, so you will have to focus on what is best for you here. I truly wish you all the best no matter what decision you make.
I hope this answers your questions and gives you some guidance on this issue. Please let me know if you have any questions or concerns as I am happy to assist and support you regarding this issue.
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