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Hello and thank you for your question. May I ask, why do you think you have this issue? Are you to shy, feel you may get rejected, etc...?
Thank you for your response. I would recommend that you write down a specific check list of what you want done so that your housekeeper can complete the checklist as you have arranged, which will help keep your house keeper on task. In addition, if you notice she has not completed the work while she is still there ask her to do those sections that were not completed. Your goal here is to be more assertive, so try to also practice assertiveness in your every day life so that you can get used to this style more. You also want to keep track of a daily diary/checklist of your own as well where you were assertive and where you could have been more assertive as this is called reflective thought so that you see where you have improved and what other areas you may need improvement on. In the situations where you think you should have been more assertive, you should try to write out narratives on what you could have said or done to be more assertive. Lastly, with the house keeper you can also put post it notes in the areas you want especially cleaned as you can label them problem areas so that your house keeper can get to those specific areas.