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Hello, I am sorry that you are having these issues with your wife, I can understand how distressing this would be for the both of you. As you know this is a public and non-confidential website that does not provide treatment, but only answers to questions, so have you considered undergoing couple's therapy with your wife to help you both compromise on these issues and try to work together in achieving your goals?
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Customer service will get to it and remove the email at their earliest convenience. So I read the background of your issues with your wife and I know you are asking for help, but like I said this is a question and answer website, not a treatment website, so what are your specific questions you want to ask concerning this situation?
You have to understand that you are putting too much pressure on yourself to bring the relationship back to where it first started as this has to come from both of you. In order to repair a marriage, it takes both partners working together and if your wife is not willing to do that than unfortunately you cannot force her to. She must be willing to work with you to compromise and communicate about these issues in a civil manner so that you both can move forward in a meaningful manner. Free couples therapy may be possible at a free or low cost mental health clinic.
You and your wife have so many issues that you described that it is probably going to take months of consistent therapy, communication, and sacrifice from BOTH of you for this marriage to work.
It is very complicated and I do feel for your situation, but this is not something that will be fixed tonight and that is why you both need to consider seeking treatment together to discuss and work on these issues as a team
If you want to go into the detail and ask the specific question, I would be happy to answer that question for you.
That is up to you. Like I said this is a Q&A website, so start where you want.
I cannot really answer that since I cannot read your family's minds on this issue. Perhaps they do not like that you married her so quickly and to keep her in the country. Perhaps they do not respect her job. It seems pretty clear that they think you can do better and that is where most of the angst against her is coming from, but how you can do better is something only they can tell you.
Well like I said I cannot read their minds, only they can tell you why they do not like her, but it does seem obvious they feel you can do better.
Like I said I cannot read their mind, so why they do what they do is something only they an answer. But the reason why should not matter as you should only focus on the fact that they do treat her this way and that is unacceptable to you, so you should continue to not have a relationship with them as long as they treat your wife in this poor manner.
That is possible too, and like I said their reasons should not matter as the treatment of your wife is just unacceptable.
I am going to opt out of this question and allow another relationship therapist to help you. Good luck