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Hello and thank you for your question. I understand that you want to help your husband see that there is a better way to connect with you and his family and to help him better control his anger issues, but you also have to remember that this is not something you can fix or help him with as he has to help himself. You stated that he has tried multiple therapeutic avenues to address this and it does not seem like they have worked for him unfortunately, so that means he has to consult with a psychologist or psychiatrist about alternative treatment for resistant cases of anger such as the use of an atypical antipsychotic like Risperdal, maybe a mood stabilizer, EMDR or DBT therapy, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), etc...It is not about convincing him how to express love through emotions as he does not need convincing; he wants to overcome this anger and wants to connect with you but is unable to like there is a mental block preventing him from doing so. This is why different treatments must be considered to help as the first line treatment appeared to have failed, so alternative and second line treatments need to be considered.