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Hello, I am very sorry that you are having this issue with your younger son, I can understand how distressing this can be for you and your wife. May I ask, why exactly do you not get along with your younger son...what are the specific issues you have with him?
It would be good to try to find out why he is not close with you; maybe you can try to have a long discussion with him about this issue and to get a better idea of his view point. But you have to understand that this is not a problem you and your wife can fix as the problem lies with him as he is the one wanting to not be close with you and your wife, so that means only he can choose to spend more time and to reconnect with you both. Maybe suggesting family therapy could be helpful if you all live near each other, but no matter what you and your wife do, the choice is still going to be up to him. Try to write him a letter detailing your thoughts and emotions on this matter and do not cast judgement on him, but instead use the letter to look for answers and hopefully he will provide them back in his response so that you can better understand where he is coming from and then move forward from there. Remember though that you and your wife can do and say everything perfectly, but in the end he is the one that must choose to reconnect with you both, so there is a big element that is out of your control unfortunately. Hopefully he will respond to your letter and then you can use that information to try to reconnect with him in a meaningful way.
I hope this answers your questions and gives you some guidance on this issue. Please let me know if you have any questions or concerns as I am happy to assist and support you regarding this issue.
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