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Hello, I am very sorry that you are having this issue with your husband. Can you tell me what is your specific mental health question that you would like an answer to in regards ***** ***** situation?
I understand that this is a major issue and has caused you and your husband some distress from what you are describing. Remember this is a Q&A website, so what is your specific mental health question that you want an answer to as you have not specifically stated what your question is?
Thank you for your question. I would definitely recommend looking into possible couples therapy as this may help you and your husband to form a compromise on these two issues of children and in regards ***** ***** mother because it is not enough for you to work on these two issues as he must also work on them to for resolution to occur. In your case of depression/stress over this, like I said I believe this will always cause you distress if your husband continues to hesitate on having children since it is important for you. And also if your husband continues to be hostile or jealous of your mother this will only cause you more stress and depressive symptoms; even if you went through therapy and mastered therapeutic techniques, it will only be effective for so long because the stressors of your husband's behavior will continue to be present. This is why it is so important for him to be part of the effort to change and form a meaningful compromise that you both can be content about. Try to use words like "we" and "us" to show that you two are a team and that you two need to work on these issues together for you both to move forward from them. Try not to point blame to him or accept blame yourself, but focus on you being a couples a unified construct and state that the union is in disarray and needs help to overcome these major issues. If you both work on these issues together than your depression and stress will lessen as you are getting some resolution of these major issues. But if you try to do this by yourself and just cope with your depression and stress than your husband will continue to behave in this way and eventually it will overwhelm you, no matter how much you try to cope because the human mind and emotional state can only take so much.