My Name is ***** ***** I am Registered psychotherapist. Having reviewd your questions, I’m going to suggest that you would benefit from some Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
CBT isbased on the fact that what we think in any given situation generates beliefsabout, and reactions to that situation, and also causes the behaviour andfeelings which flow from those beliefs and reactions.
These‘automatic thoughts’ are so fast that generally, we are unaware that we haveeven had them. We call them ANTS (automatic negative thoughts) for short.
If thepattern of thinking we use, or our beliefs about our situation are evenslightly distorted,
theresulting emotions and actions that flow from them can be extremely negativeand unhelpful. The object of CBT is to identify these ‘automaticthoughts’ then to re-adjust our thoughts and beliefs so that they are entirelyrealistic and correspond to the realities of our lives, and that therefore, theresulting emotions, feelings and actions we have will be more useful andhelpful.
Cognitivetherapists do not usually interpret or seek for unconscious motivations butbring cognitions and beliefs into the current focus of attention and throughguided discovery encourage clients to gently re-evaluate their thinking.
Therapyis not seen as something “done to” the client. CBT is not about trying to provea client wrong and the therapist right, or getting into unhelpfuldebates. Through collaboration, questioning and re-evaluating theirviews, clients come to see for themselves that there are alternatives and thatthey can change.
Clientstry things out in between therapy sessions, putting what has been learned intopractice, learning how therapy translates into real life improvement.
Pleasevisit this website for much more detailed information on CBT:
If youcannot afford to see a therapist, there are good free CBT based self-helpresources here:
Also, there is abook called ”Feeling good - the new mood therapy” by Dr. David Burns. Ithas a hand book which gives you practical exercises to work through and furtherinstructions on how to better use CBT. I really do recommend it.
CognitiveBehavioural Therapy Workbook for Dummies By Rhena Branch, Rob Willson is also prettygood.