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Hello, I am very sorry that you are having these issues with your soon to be ex-wife, I can understand how distressing this can be for you. Truthfully you cannot reason with an individual that may have a personality disorder because while you can see things in a logical manner, her personality disorder prevents her from processing things logically. The best way for you to avoid any "drama" or conflict with this woman would be to limit your contact with her to only issues related to your daughter. Do not interact with her on any other subject and try to use mediums of email or phone calls as you have greater control with those forms of communication where you can end the discussion when you start to notice it going in a direction you do not like. Here is also a very effective book that can help prepare you more for the divorce process and aftermath with someone who has BPD:
"Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder" by Eddy and Kreger
Overall though the best advice most psychologists give in this situation is to limit your contact and form adequate barriers so that she will not have any access to your personal life. The only connection you two will have is with your daughter, nothing more.
I hope this answers your questions and gives you some guidance on this issue. Please let me know if you have any questions or concerns as I am happy to assist and support you regarding this issue.
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