Thank you for your responses as it helps me to better understand your situation. Unfortunately because your mother’s cognitive faculties are still relatively intact for her to take care of her daily needs, you cannot push for an evaluation or treatment for her at this time. Your mother at this point would have to volunteer for any assessment and treatment with a neurologist or psychiatrist given her behavior. So because she probably has most control over her behavior and knows that what she is doing when she behaves this way to you, your family, and your daughter then you should start to set up good boundaries with your mother to not let her overwhelm you and others in your family. This means that when she behaves in this way, try to neutralize it by either walking to another room in the house or by ignoring her until she agrees to speak to you like an adult. You do not have to raise your voice or anything like that, instead refuse to engage her or support her behavior until she makes the appropriate changes. Tell your daughter to do this as well because this way it gives you both some control because you can decide when to just leave a conversation with your mother if it becomes “nasty.” As for therapy with your daughter, that may be helpful for her to assist her in coping with this added stress
. I can recommend a good relaxation exercise called Progressive Muscle Relaxation that your daughter can use to help her relax more and have a sense of inner calm.
In addition, if your daughter would like to try natural supplements that can help lessen the impact of your mother’s behavior on her, than she can look at Valerian Root and Picamilon which can lessen stress and anxiety
from this adverse situation.
I hope this answers your question and gives you some guidance on this issue. I truly wish you and your daughter all the best and I hope that you both will be able to get through this together. And I hope that your mother will one day see that her behavior is becoming problematic and requests an assessment by a Neurologist or a Psychiatrist very soon.
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