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He told me that he would never kick me out so then I decided that I would move in. He said that if for any reason things did not work out that I could stay at the apartment and he would leave and put me on the lease. So we had been doing ok and I was looking for a job cause I did not have one for a while. So he would tell me that if I did not get a job soon that he would kick me out, or if I did not go and do certain things that he would kick me out, or if I did not want to sleep with him one night he would say that he was not sure that he wanted to be with someone that did not want to have sex. So the current situation is that he has kicked me out for good this time because he thinks that I am cheating on him with my ex husband, claiming that he has been calling the apartment which I find hard to believe since I have never given it to him and if I had talked to my ex husband that it was not from our house number. So then he calls my ex husband and asks him what is going on and he told him that we sometimes talked to eachother to make sure that each other is ok. That is what my ex husband has told him and that he was also remarried. So he did not believe that. So come to find out that my girlfriend ended up giving my ex husband my house number because she was worried about me cause she had not heard from me in a while which made him concerned so she gave him my number. So I asked my friend to text him what she had done so that he could see that I was telling the truth, but he deleted it. So I had her send me a copy of the text that she sent him, and I tried showing it to him but he refuses to see it and won't let me explain anything to him about this situation. We have gone back and forth with other things as well and pretty much whenever he does not get his way or I tell him no he gets an attitude problem and either wants to break up with me or kick me out. Also he either suffers from bipolar disorder or schizorphrenia where he has talked to himself, laughed and also mumbling under his breath, he has not been doing that now, but he did a few years ago, and he was hospitalized a few time for it, and I stuck by him during all that. I also suffer from panic attacks and obviously have been going through some issues, but nothing that bad. I take 200mg's of Zoloft for panic attacks.
Please give me some advice. Eventhough he wants me to leave the apartment should I stay here eventhough I am not on the lease but I do pay for electric and cable and my mail does come here. Am I legally able to stay here.
Well he has kicked me out and has told me to leave by Sunday. And he has also broken up with me yet again. Mind you he has done this to me several times. So we are already broken up. I don't understand why he would not want to see a text from my friend that pretty much explains the situation with my ex husband is beyond me.
Well I don't make enough money to stay in the apartment by myself so that is not an option that is one of the reasons that I moved in with him cause I could not afford to live in the apartment that I was in. I will be living with my mother and step father for now. One other thing is that he ended up calling my mother the night of the situation with the ex husband and my mother tried to re assure him that he had nothing to worry about and that I had no feelings when it came to my ex husband. And that I cared about him and loved him very much. And that he was remarried.
I really don't have the money to go to a therapist but my friends and family have been very supportive and they seem to think that he is not stable.
I work part time in the same mall that he works in as well, which I don't like at all, but I need to work for sure.
Do you think that maybe in time if I give him space and leave him alone that maybe he will realize that he should have let explain to him the circumstances with the ex husband, although I know that I should not hold my breath cause it probably would not happen anyway.
Well I don't think that he will look at himself and see what he is doing is wrong because he has not since we have been together for 4 years. He puts all the blame on me.
Also I always feel like I have to walk on egg shells with him, wondering if I do or don't do something that he wants me to do how is he going to react is he going to break up with me or kick me out because I don't do something that he wants or expects me to do.
I have also been texting him and I had asked him if I could keep the keys just until I get all my stuff out and my mail forwarded and he had said that he just needs time and that he wants the keys for now and some time alone. And for right now I have to leave and give him time.
I had talked to him this morning cause he wanted to know if I was going to be leaving by Sunday and I told him yes, but that if he could stop by so that we could talk and he said no, I have to leave and move on. I said is there any chance that we could get back together and he said no, and that if I don't give him the keys that he would just change the locks, but that if I give him the keys there is a chance that we could get back together again, but not this year, and I said what about New Year's and he said I don't know. But he called my honey a couple of times
So I don't know what to make of all of this. What do you think?
Would you mind answering my question now that I rated you?
Do you think that maybe it was just an excuse to get rid of me. Do you think that I should have told him that I spoke to my ex husband every so often, I just did not want to tell him, cause I did not want him to react like this. Or am I just giving him excuses.
So how do I move on from him and be ok at my Mom's