Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX Thank you.
For your words of advice...they are what I needed to hear. Yes I guess I must tell her "now" while I'm here... and have her write the condolence card on time, while I'm here, and here to deliver it (she is slightly disabled so climbing the outdoor stairs to deliver it personally to neighbor's mailbox is not for her)
I will have to deal with the problem that she might not let me go tomorrow to the set up appointment.... Will tell her "after" the service person comes hopefully before 5 pm as don't want her upset and trying to talk to them about a potentially huge economic outlay as others have already told us!
Its just everything hitting at once (yes I'll be rating your answer way above 3), just wanted to get this out before the person comes so sorry for bad grammar... If you have anything else to add I'd appreciate it before I send the rating and close this out.....
Will consider calling her Psychiatrist only if her reaction continues too long or threatens to disturb her sleep pattern tonight....before I got to go away tomorrow.
Just a last minute thought....maybe I should hint I have something bad to tell her....and ask her if she wants it "now" or when I get back? What do you think (she is a full professional person who just retired from a major area where she has had 22,000 clients below her and a hundred or so top people working with her at any one time.....so you see going from that to sitting at home running around house is frightening her as nothing to do syndrome has set in....
P.S. I just told her (we had a frightfully busy day---service person was great but told us news we didn't want to hear and may have done good or bad won't know until a few hours into late night if we freeze or not!) So after all that and my deadlines were cut even shorter than before, we survived the telling of the news.... She wishes I had NOT told her until Friday, but there was no way she could have known in advance to inform me that prior to my telling her the news of his passing, and my having to leave all day tomorrow...
Thanks for your advice, I would not have had the simple courage to proceed without the clear voice of reasonable thinking you provided me in my hour of need. Thank you for being on "Just answer"!
I (for both of us) appreciate your good wishes and send mine to you and your loved ones as well.
Bye for now.