Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am very sorry to know about this overwhelmingly sad and serious situation.
What you describe here is very serious, since it shows how your husband has developed chronic mental health disorders related to poor anger control, poor coping skills and lack of emotional stability from childhood, leading to these very abusive behaviors, which have now become domestic violence.
As frustrating as it could sound, unhappily there is no way you could convince him to get the professional support he needs, unless he happens to be willing to fully acknowledge how dysfunctional and abusive are these behaviors, and takes full responsibility for them, committing to work on himself and his rehabilitation process with necessary psychological treatment.
You could continue to support him and his openness and willingness to look for necessary treatment by being truly honest, open, respectful, caring and loving, but not through any form of tolerance or enabling of these abusive behaviors, otherwise he would get even worse.
Thank you for your advise.
Psychotherapy is the first and most necessary source of support, since he requires psychological treatment to work on himself to truly rehabilitate from these disorders. There are anger management programs that could help him too, but since these disorders appear to be much more than simple poor anger control, such programs could be very limited.
You're very welcome. Thank you for replying
There are good books that could help him and you to cope with this situation and see how well your situation evolve. But again, it seems clear to me that psychotherapy is essential.
Thank you for this confirmation. Much appreciated.
Thank you so much for these two titles and advises.
I really appreciate your recommendations, resources and professionalism.