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Hello there! I'm uncertain if You're working tonight,however I wanted to introduce myself to you. I was going to a counselor, however due to insurances she was forces to close her practice. She was incredible and I could talk to her about anything. I need to find someone like that again. I'm hoping that's you! Michelle

Submitted: 11 months ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Dr. Mark replied 11 months ago.

Dr. Mark :

Hi, Michelle! I'll be glad to help you with this issue.

Dr. Mark :

The system says you went offline, so I'll wait for you to get back, okay?

Dr. Mark :

Hi. If you type a hello, then I'll know you're here.

Customer:

I'm online. I have most of my issues at work, but of course thank G-d it's Saturday!

Customer:

I have some health issues and I had issues with my fiance. I am overweight and want to have a gastic bypass

Customer:

not sure if I can

Dr. Mark :

You said you're looking for a new therapist. Is this online? By Skype?

Customer:

Not sure...all I know if I dont have one. I'm quite partial to chatting

Customer:

I know chatting is hard because of lack of voice inflecition

Dr. Mark :

So, you'd like to have an ongoing internet therapy?

Customer:

I have to be honest., I've never had a male therapist. It doesn't bother me, I've have never had a male.

Customer:

yes

Dr. Mark :

Well, hello then!

Customer:

an on going internet therapy

Customer:

the last therapist I had locally was so great

Customer:

she was forces to close her practive because of insurance

Dr. Mark :

Okay. We can chat here for a while. This forum is not meant for a very long chat; it's based on a question/answer premise. But we can be on for a while, enough

Dr. Mark :

for you to see if you want to explore online therapy

Customer:

ok

Dr. Mark :

or if you'd like me to share some directories with you for finding another local therapist.

Dr. Mark :

Or would you like to just find a local therapist to continue your work face to face?

Customer:

It's very hard to click with someone

Customer:

I want to find it here

Customer:

online

Customer:

is it generally skype

Dr. Mark :

Well, then, let's get started.

Customer:

ok

Dr. Mark :

You have a few options here. We can work together via our site called pearl.therapi.com. for example

Dr. Mark :

the link to me there is


https://pearl.etherapi.com/connectme/168

Customer:

Is it like a video chat

Dr. Mark :

and there you will have a few options on how to work with me. Skype is a good option, or we can also chat, similar to here.

Dr. Mark :

You know, after we finish our chat here, you can click the link and just explore, okay?

Customer:

For now chat is good because my boyfriend is here. Plus you can hear my backgrough

Dr. Mark :

And then, you can always reach me back here as well in this format.

Dr. Mark :

So, let's get started: share with me what you'd like while we're in this chat, okay?

Customer:

i didn't even know this format was on here

Dr. Mark :

What do you mean?

Customer:

I am new to this and didn't know chat was an option

Dr. Mark :

Well, it's based on you asking a specific question, because it's not meant for an extended chat; that's why it can be such a low price. Does that make sense?

Customer:

yeah....I have the free anyway with a monthly price

Dr. Mark :

Right, and because in mental health people want to often ask a follow up question, they regulate it: you only get that free question once per month, so here we are!

Dr. Mark :

Go ahead, share with me why you've been in counseling and we'll try to make the best use of this time, okay?

Customer:

ahhh I see

Customer:

Lots of reasons....low selt esteem, many bad relationships. Mom passed away three years ago...hit me VERY hard BAD issues with my daughter. My BF just got out of REHAB.

Customer:

Ihate my job I hate my body. I feed my emotions

Customer:

My sister and I had a relationship until my Mom died.

Customer:

My 81 year old Dad hardly talks to me now since my Sis moved to Florida to take care of him

Dr. Mark :

I see you're typing, so I'll wait

Customer:

I was with Mom when she dies and my sis wasn't do I think this is payback

Dr. Mark :

This is a lot that you're trying to sort out. I see what you mean that you eat emotionally.

Customer:

sorry, there's just years of things. I can't be around drinkers...I was abused m=by Exs that were. That's why my BF went to REHAB he had to if he wanted me. I was raped at 16. I was married 4 times and I still believe my prince charming is out there.I wont allow anyone to tell my that there isnt

Dr. Mark :

It's clear that there are a lot of emotions flooding you

Customer:

I have terrible anxiety. I am on Cymbalta and Lamectal

Customer:

Klonopin bedtim and when i need it day time

Dr. Mark :

Have you been treated for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)?

Customer:

I love chuck and we want to get married but I'm scared so we're waiting

Customer:

no just depressioin. I go to a phychiatrist. I cry everyday at work because they bully me. I'm hard or hearing and they tell me that i'm too loud and i can't help it

Dr. Mark :

I am concerned that you have been treated for depression as if it's independent of your rape

Customer:

I have asthma, aleep apnea (prob weight induced)\

Dr. Mark :

and I'm also concerned that there has been no linkage made between your hanging on to abusive men and the trauma you suffered. What do you think?

Customer:

it was so long ago I dont even think about it anymore. I've been to therapy for that and I'm ok with that really

Customer:

that i've been told. The men I tend to go for are abusive to some degree. Chuck isn't . He was verbal when drunk but now that hes sober he treats me like a princess

Customer:

I am afraid a lot that the other shoe will drop though. I used tohave toplay detective where he was hiding the booze . He smelled like it and would lie all the time

Customer:

so far everything has been great

Customer:

hes been clean since Sept 27

Customer:

I'm sorry, I'm longwinded

Dr. Mark :

That's fine, it's not longwinded, really.

Customer:

I still can't wrap my head around the fact that my Mom is gone too

Dr. Mark :

I understand that you've had treatment long ago for the rape, but emotions seem very overwhelming to you, is that true?

Customer:

3 years...its getting a bitbetter. I have good memories finally but i found her gone so it was so hard to think of anythng else

Dr. Mark :

So, being emotionally overwhelmed hasn't been your whole adult life, just recently because of your mom?

Customer:

No, really it's been a lot of my life. Mom and Dad got divorced whe I was 13. That was hard too. Dad was cheating on Mom for years. Dad was pretty abusive to todays standards.

Customer:

ALWAYS low self-esteem

Customer:

left home at 19. Always though sex was the only way to keepa guy

Dr. Mark :

Yes. Now let's focus on the emotional overwhelm here for today, okay?

Customer:

embarrassing talking about this to a man

Dr. Mark :

Because you are describing very classic symptoms.

Customer:

ok

Dr. Mark :

You know, I've had so many people share so much of their lives with me,

Dr. Mark :

it's a question of whether it's too uncomfortable for you.

Dr. Mark :

But my sense is

Dr. Mark :

that your "depression" is not really what is at the heart here.

Dr. Mark :

Your relationship with your own emotions has been very difficult and not healthy, if I can use such a phrase. Does it make sense phrasing it that way?

Customer:

people have relationships with their own emotions?

Customer:

Ot am I not understanding?

Dr. Mark :

Right!

Dr. Mark :

For example, your relationship with your emotions is very conflicted.

Dr. Mark :

Sometimes you try to push them down,

Dr. Mark :

sometimes you can. And they leave you in peace for a little while.

Dr. Mark :

Sometimes you can't and they overwhelm you.

Dr. Mark :

When someone, like Chuck, is treating you nicely, then you can relax for a little while.

Customer:

I;m a very outgoing bubbly personat work...well whenpeple aren't making me feel like shit...oh can I swear here?

Dr. Mark :

But otherwise, you're in a continual battle with your own feelings.

Dr. Mark :

Right. When we are very dependent on other people to make us feel good,

Dr. Mark :

then we are always at their "whim" because we've given them power to make us feel bad about ourselves very easily.

Dr. Mark :

Agreed?

Customer:

Yes true. I do depend on others to make me feel good. I've beentold that. That;s why I enjoy havpng a man in my life although I do love Chuck and boy is he handy

Customer:

LOL

Dr. Mark :

Right.

Dr. Mark :

That's what I mean that my concern is that depression is not the basis of the problem.

Dr. Mark :

My concern is that you are not comfortable with your own "self", with your own emotions.

Dr. Mark :

And regulating your emotions is tough for you.

Dr. Mark :

And you therefore rely on other people's behavior toward you

Dr. Mark :

to regulate your feelings about yourself. Does that make sense/

Dr. Mark :

I'm sorry, sense?

Customer:

People generally like me...especially the technicians (the lower ranked folks) at work. I get a lot of awards and thanks fro them

Dr. Mark :

That's beautiful. What therapy's goal could be for you, though, is for you to like yourself, not just the technicians liking you. For you to like yourself. What do you think?

Customer:

yeah and when Chuck was in

Customer:

REHAB, I was feeling ver independent and happy and I was liking me

Customer:

I dont think it has to do with chuck though

Customer:

I really hate my jobthey make me feel bad abut me and I hate NY

Customer:

I feel best about myself when I accomplish things

Dr. Mark :

So that would be my recommendation for therapy.

Dr. Mark :

Working on learning to actually LIKE yourself!

Dr. Mark :

Maybe even feel good about yourself without having it based on accomplishing anything

Dr. Mark :

but just being YOU.

Dr. Mark :

What do you think?

Customer:

I can try

Dr. Mark :

I wonder, though, if finding a therapist to work with locally wouldn't be best?

Dr. Mark :

What do you think?

Customer:

maybe

Dr. Mark :

If not, I'd think working via Skype would be better than internet chat like this.

Customer:

where are you

Customer:

skype is ok ive done it

Dr. Mark :

I'm in Denver.

Dr. Mark :

The link I gave you,


https://pearl.etherapi.com/connectme/168


 

Dr. Mark :

has Skype as an option.

Customer:

Wow...far. I love colorado!

Customer:

is that separate money

Dr. Mark :

Well, we need to close up here. But again, the key, from everything you've told me is not a "mood" like depression or anxiety. Those are coming from your insecurity and most importantly, from your not feeling positive about yourself. Which makes you super sensitive to things other people do. ]

Dr. Mark :

And yes,

Dr. Mark :

any therapy would not be part of this site's subscription.

Dr. Mark :

But, what do you think of my suggestion for the focus for your next round of therapy?

Customer:

oy I can't afford any more money

Dr. Mark :

So, then, you're not ready to find a therapist in NY either, then, right?

Customer:

I have insurance

Dr. Mark :

Good. Then you need to find someone in NY.

Customer:

yes I do

Dr. Mark :

But when you do, maybe you can print out some of what we've written?

Dr. Mark :

And use it to begin your new therapy?

Customer:

ok

Dr. Mark :

What do you think?

Customer:

ok

Customer:

Thank you Mark, Have a good night

Dr. Mark :

Okay, I wish you the very best!


 


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Customer:

ok, thank you so much for your help

Dr. Mark :

And you can always ask another question (though if it's within a month you'll have to pay separately) and write "for Dr. Mark", okay? If you could give a positive rating before you leave, I'd be grateful.

Dr. Mark :

All the best, XXXXX XXXXX

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Experience: Dr. Mark is a PhD in psychology in private practice
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