I believe I can help you with your concern
I am so sorry that your wife has been having this level of anxiety and is not as interested in sex as she once was
May I ask, are the anxiety attacks what makes her not want to have sex anymore, or is it a general loss of libido?
not sure, she wants to lose weight and is not happy with the way she looks. Maybe I put too much pressure on her, I love making love.
Well the best treatment protocol for this would be a dual approach of therapy and medications typically. The therapy should be with a certified Sex therapist or a therapist that specializes in Sex Therapy (I say this because Certified Sex Therapist are usually very few and mostly near major metropolitan areas). Most Sex Therapists use an individualized version of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) which is the most evidence based treatment for anxiety and sexual issues as well.
In addition, the best medication for this would be Bupropion (Wellbutrin) as it is an anti-depressant that has anti-anxiety benefits too. Also it can help restore libido, and actually promotes weight loss. Here is an article describing how well it promotes libido in women and helps them achieve orgasms too
So the Wellbutrin would accomplish a lot for your wife by helping her lose weight, lessening her psychological symptoms, and helping her regain her libido to be interested in sexual intercourse again
But this medication only helps with the symptoms, which is why therapy is a must as it can help "cure" her of these issues for a longer and sustained period of time, but therapy takes time and the Wellbutrin will start to be effective in approximately 3 weeks and then reach its maximum effectiveness in 6-9 weeks.
Can you recommend any good therapists in Manitoba, we live in Gimli but we can travel
Sure give me a few minutes to try to compile a list for you
Do we need a prescription for the wellbutrin?
Yes you would need a prescription for Wellbutrin from either your general practitioner or a psychiatrist, which ever you prefer
So these are a list of therapists in Winnipeg that specialize in Sex Therapy, this was the closest city. The first link is a Certified Sex Therapist, so these are usually exceptionally trained. And the other 4 links are qualified therapists that specialize in Sex Therapy, but may not be certified.
Do you have any questions or concerns?
Are you still there?
That info was great, thanks