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I am so sorry for this situation, I can understand why this would distress you because it is normal for you to meet your husband's family before and after marriage
So your request to see his family is not unreasonable at all
It sounds like he is hiding something from his family about you or maybe he is hiding something from you about them, or both.
I am very frustrated with this. I am very close to my family and he has met everyone he can on my side. My mom has even asked him what's up but he just says I know, I know.
I feel like that is the reason. But not sure.
Well there is definitely something he is hiding and it can be small or big, I cannot be certain, but it must be something of concern to him
What else can I do?
Well I think your requests are justified and I think you should start to be more forceful and demanding with these requests or you can try to go to couples therapy to help him see reason from an objective viewpoint on why this behavior is not typical
Another option you can do, but it should be a last resort is hire a private investigator possibly if you feel that your husband is hiding something from you. I know some couples that have done this before, but I recommend it only as a last resort
I have been very demanding but it doesn't help. He isn't up to counseling at all. I really don't think he is cheating (I know, the spouse is always the last to know) so I don't think a private investigator is necessary. All I have left is the ultimatum meet your family or a divorce.
I cannot be certain if he is cheating or not, it does not seem likely, I agree, but it is a possibility. The ultimatum can be something you can propose to him since you have been so demanding and he has not given you a good reason for not meeting his family
Thanks. You didn't really tell me anything I didn't already know. But thanks for getting back to me so quickly.
Well I did reassure you that his behavior is odd and not typical of a husband. Is there anything else I can assist you with today?
No. Thanks again.