How JustAnswer Works:

  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.

Ask Dr. Keane Your Own Question

Dr. Keane
Dr. Keane, Therapist
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 1708
Experience:  Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.
14832673
Type Your Mental Health Question Here...
Dr. Keane is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

Dear Dr. Keane (only)

Resolved Question:

Dear Dr. Keane, When leaving something, ie my voluntary work which as you know I’ve done for such a long time, it feels how I didn’t really expect it to feel. It’s like psychologically I’m pulling away, the motivation is different, lower even, and yet I still have a few weeks to go until I actually leave. Is this ok to feel like that? How can I stay motivated for the remaining time? Okay, things aren’t too bad anymore at work, still a bit anxous, but do think things will resolve, still feel a bit of angst though. That thinking things over for just 10 minutes can be a tough exercise at times, but trying hard to do that. I really hope to hear from you soon. I hope also to chat to you soon, but may end up working a bit late today, so all in all I am more anxous to hear from you. I hope you are having a good week. Thank you for your on-going and great support, you still help so much and I feel like I’m still growing thanks to all that I am learning from you, actually it helps too just to know that I can chat/post to you about things, it helps at times when I want to try new things too, knowing I can at least chat to you about it. Also I am wondering if you are still planning on being here next year too and if I can still contact you here? Often at this time of year I find myself hoping and thinking this.

Submitted: 1 year ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Dr. Keane replied 1 year ago.

Dr. Keane :

Hi, Of course it's okay to feel the way you do and you recognize the detachment and it's normal. If you tell yourself that you still have a responsibility until you do leave you'll find yourself not motivated as much as you were before but at least enough to get you to the end of your tenure. It's quite normal. This part of your career there is over, a new chapter beginning and that's where you want to start focusing your attention.

Dr. Keane :

I'll try to catch you online tomorrow just know it's a busy week here too!!!

Customer:

Hi

Customer:

thanks for getting back to me, I will probably be able to be here at 4pm but not for long. Much more time after 8pm my time on Wed. Just one of those days! I understand you are busy too. Hope it's a good one all the same.

Customer:

Hi

Customer:

I am here too

Dr. Keane :

good!

Dr. Keane :

how are things today?

Customer:

I feel a bit better today than I have other days this week.

Customer:

I feel a bit more positive about things in some ways. What you said yesterday helped.

Customer:

I also think I feel a little bit calmer too.

Dr. Keane :

Good, Life is changing and you need to take some deep breaths and adjust, it is exciting actually.

Customer:

It is exciting. It's been awhile since so many things have changed at once, and good things at that.

Dr. Keane :

I was thinking about the way you said your were not motivated much at your volunteer position and I'm wondering if it was a paid position if you would feel differently, a check does motivate.

Customer:

I think it was just that I've been doing it for so long now, and it really has been a great time, but it feels more like I have sort of not completely lost interest but just pulling away mentally a bit, perhaps because it's only about 4 weeks or so until I do leave.

Customer:

I don't know if a pay check would be a motivator.

Dr. Keane :

that makes sense, since pulling away is normal.

Customer:

I haven't left so many things you see so didn't quite know how it would feel. I guess it wasn't quite how I imagined.

Customer:

but then I suppose it means that I am doing the right thing.

Dr. Keane :

Well just don't dwell on the difference between how your felt and how your thought you'd feel, and yes you are doing the right thing, as well as getting experience in interviewing.

Customer:

I don't mind doing voluntary work, been doing it since I was 20.

Customer:

Yes, I couldn't quite believe for a couple of days that I actually got that position. Just waiting for references to be completed before I can start.

Dr. Keane :

It's admirable and makes people feel good to volunteer. As long as it doesn't consume too much of your time and goals.

Customer:

Keeps saying you step out and back in chat.... so weird!

Customer:

Do you do voluntary work?

Customer:

It is nice to be able to give something back.

Dr. Keane :

Yes, especially in my field of work, do help with a lot of organizations

Customer:

The voluntary position that I am about to leave has been very consuming, great experience, gave a lot back to the community I live in and gained a lot of different experiences and learnt a lot too.

Dr. Keane :

Believe we learn from all our experiences

Customer:

I thought you might do voluntary work from the way that you seem so understanding of it. That's admirable too that you fit in voluntary work as well.

Customer:

Yes I think that too.

Dr. Keane :

always room to help, sometimes more than other times. As long as it balances out and doesn't exhaust me!

Customer:

The other voluntary work that I do is a bit less consuming and less exhausting, so will be a bit more balanced perhaps.

Customer:

That's nice that you help voluntarily too :)

Dr. Keane :

Can't stay online too long today just wanted to make sure you were okay

Customer:

I help with an organisation that works here and abroad with people that a friend of mine got me involved in

Customer:

Yes, I think I am more ok. One more question if I may?

Dr. Keane :

sure

Customer:

Just because it's something that is on my mind a bit at times. Are you planning on still being here next year as well and can I contine to chat to you?

Dr. Keane :

yes, as far as I know I'll be here.

Customer:

Also I want you to know that after reading what you wrote yesterday helped motivate me into doing a good job tonight at my voluntary position.

Dr. Keane :

good, glad to be able to support you

Customer:

thank you, XXXXX XXXXX very reassuring. I like chatting to you.

Customer:

)

Customer:

:)

Dr. Keane :

Reassuring is a good thing, have to run....have a good evening,

Customer:

Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX hope that the week goes well for you. So glad we chatted tonight.

Dr. Keane :

me too.

Customer:

:)

Dr. Keane, Therapist
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 1708
Experience: Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.
Dr. Keane and 2 other Mental Health Specialists are ready to help you

JustAnswer in the News:

 
 
 
Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.
 
 
 

What Customers are Saying:

 
 
 
  • I can go as far as to say it could have resulted in saving my sons life and our entire family now knows what bipolar is and how to assist and understand my most wonderful son, brother and friend to all who loves him dearly. Thank you very much Corrie Moll Pretoria, South Africa
< Last | Next >
  • I can go as far as to say it could have resulted in saving my sons life and our entire family now knows what bipolar is and how to assist and understand my most wonderful son, brother and friend to all who loves him dearly. Thank you very much Corrie Moll Pretoria, South Africa
  • I thank-you so much! It really helped to have this information and confirmation. We will watch her carefully and get her in for the examination and US right away if things do not improve. God bless you as well! Claudia Albuquerque, NM
  • Outstanding response time less than 6 minutes. Answered the question professionally and with a great deal of compassion. Kevin Beaverton, OR
  • Suggested diagnosis was what I hoped and will take this info to my doctor's appointment next week.
    I feel better already! Thank you.
    Elanor Tracy, CA
  • Thank you to the Physician who answered my question today. The answer was far more informative than what I got from the Physicians I saw in person for my problem. Julie Lockesburg, AR
  • You have been more help than you know. I seriously don't know what my sisters situation would be today if you had not gone above and beyond just answering my questions. John and Stefanie Tucson, AZ
  • I have been dealing with an extremely serious health crisis for over three years, and one your physicians asked me more questions, gave me more answers and encouragement than a dozen different doctors who have been treating me!! Janet V Phoenix, AZ
 
 
 

Meet The Experts:

 
 
 
  • Dr. Keane

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1262
    Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.
< Last | Next >
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/DR/Dr.Keane/2013-8-20_204325_drkeane.64x64.jpg Dr. Keane's Avatar

    Dr. Keane

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1262
    Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/RE/resolutions66/2011-1-17_05728_IMG8202smilingeditedforJustAnswer.64x64.jpg Elliott, LPCC, NCC's Avatar

    Elliott, LPCC, NCC

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    5024
    35 years of experience as a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, National Certified Counselor and a college professor.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/formybunch/2010-12-06_191055_img_0975.jpg Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC's Avatar

    Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    3733
    Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/DR/DrAkiraOlsen/2012-2-20_746_AkiraADpicmain.64x64.jpg Dr. Olsen's Avatar

    Dr. Olsen

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2336
    PsyD Psychologist
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/norriem/2009-5-27_134249_nm.jpg Norman M.'s Avatar

    Norman M.

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2193
    UK trained in hypnotherapy, counselling and psychotherapy and have been in private practice. ADHP(NC), DEHP(NC), UKCP Registered and ECP.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/PsychologyProf/2010-07-15_171248_logos060400409.jpg Dr. Michael's Avatar

    Dr. Michael

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2177
    Licensed Ph.D. Clinical Health Psychology with 30 years of experience in private practive and as a clinical psychology university professor.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/KURTEMMERLING/2010-07-23_215531_just_ask_picture1.jpg Steven Olsen's Avatar

    Steven Olsen

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1727
    More than twenty years of expertise in counseling, psychological diagnosis and education
 
 
 
Chat Now With A Mental Health Professional
Dr. Keane
Dr. Keane
Mental Health Professional
1708 Satisfied Customers
Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.