Bill is actually not online right now and has not come online very often in the last 3 months, but I would be happy to help you with your situation and concern if you like
Okay, so for how long has your wife been behaving this way if I may ask?
we are married for 4 years now
all 4 years its been like tis
And before the marriage was she like this?
i dont know , in fact it was an arranged marriage , we knew each other only six months before our marriage, she was quite normal at that time
not this possessive
Okay that is understandable, does she hold grudges frequently?
yes, it gets worse if i have to go out for some time, she creates all drama before i go
her brother is a chronic schizophrenic, family is very conservative , never gets along with other people , always talks negative about others
And how old is your wife?
she loves her sisters family and her parents very much, and behaves very well
she has very few liked relatives and is very nice to those
she frames stories about my family parents sister relatives etc and always try to prove that they are all bad people
So she can behave appropriately in from of her family and relative, but not others. I believe that your wife may have a personality disorder called Paranoid Personality Disorder or possibly a Delusional Disorder Paranoid Type. Here are some links describing them in more detail for you.
Most likely she does not have schizophrenia as she is able to control her behavior around certain people, while a true person with schizophrenia is not able to do so.
But because her brother has a psychotic disorder, there is a greater likelihood for her to get one as well as genetic studies show strong sibling genetic factors involved with these disorders
yes , she doesnt have schizophrenia, certain times/rarely she manages to behave well, i could see that she had struggled very much to do so
how do i treat her
Well the best and most effective treatment is for intensive Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and the possible use of antipsychotic medications. The CBT therapy should be done by a professional psychologist, psychiatrist, or therapist
This is a difficult situation for you, but self-help therapies will usually prove ineffective for this disorder
i see , is there any advice you would like to me on how to handle things in these circumstances as i most of the times get disheartened and weak seeing these things
Well I would like to recommend a couple books for you to help you interact with her and support her through this. But the best advice is to get her into treatment as soon as possible and CBT has a premise that your symptoms are caused by negative thoughts, so if we change your thought process to be more positive and objective as well, then your symptoms will lessen. So if you try to support her by providing objective view points this will help her treatment. Give me a minute to get you those book ideas
So two of these books are specific for Schizophrenia, but the same principles apply to your wife's 2 possible disorders, because of the delusions and paranoia.
These are from the U.S. based website but I am confident that you can find them online from any store you choose to use
ok , i shall refer to these , thank you very much sir
Anytime, I am always happy to help and I hope that your wife gets the treatment that she needs. My goal is to provide you with excellent service, so if you ever have any further questions or concerns please do not hesitate to contact me at anytime. Before
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sure i would do that sir, thank you very much
You are most welcome :)