I have a 49 year old son (Brett), who can not let go of his perceived hurt from when he was a child, a young man and a even now, by other members of our family. There is possibly a lot of foundation for his agner, but I can not bear to put up with his shouting and blame putting any more. I am in the middle of moving house and downsizing. I asked him if he wanted to come and collect all the tools and equipment that I can no longer keep & he is staying in our property in a little caravan I gave him, which he tows in a 75 Series Toyota LandCruiser Ute that I gave him. He will be alright for a short time, buit he keeps becoming very aggitated and ranting about everything that his family has done to him. I don't know how much to say on here, but I will give you as muich of an ourtline as I can as quickly as I can. He has problems withj his daughter and Ex- parner who used him to get pegnant, now he wants to but will not have anything to do with daughter or Ex and is very hurt about that. His elder brother (Died at 42 years of age in 2001 - Larry) would not let him have materials to work with from my business which I had to walk away from, after heart surgery & a stroke
inm 1981. I gave the business to Larry, because I was in a bad waymyself after the Coronary Artery Bypass Surgery. I am now 78 years of age and have had CFS, Fibromyalgia, Thrombosis, two lopts of CABGs (1981 & 1997) as well as a Stent +/- 2007, Atrial Fibrilation Pacemaker fitted, Pulmonary Embolisms and Spinal problems for which I have had unsuccessful Surgery & attend the RB&WHospital Pain Clinic with Pros Julkia Fleming and need to keep an appointment next FRiday, because of my pain. Brett's sister was supposed to help him get in contact with his daughter (now about 16 ???), took over too much and had a lot of contact without Brett. Now he resents her & her husband and will not have anything to do with her. He says his other sister has taken him down in many ways. Last night he saw some photos on my computer of my 55th wedding anniversary family get together, including some of his Ex and daughter, to which he was not invited, because he has repeatedly said that he will have nothing to do with the family. He ranted last night, but came back later and was quite sociable. This morning my wife went past his caravan ( he usually stays in until 10:00, 11:00 or 12:00 in the morning) and he started out OK, but she gets confused quicklyand they were discussing something about the distance to where we were moving to. She often get muddled about conversations and expresses herself poorly. He became very aggitated while speaking to her and suddenly started shouting and talking about his EX and his daughter being more important than he is and going back over every wrong he sees as being done to him. when he does this there is possibnly a lot of truth in what he says, but he expects me to hhave fixed everything always and it is always that I have done nothing to help him/support him. He is quite abusive swearing and shouting. I knopw he doesn't really mean it, but I am not as good as I was and this is affecting me, my wife & he himself. He needs help urgently. HE was seeing a Government Psychiatrist in Ipswich. His GP (who I believe didn't think treated me very appropriatly and I had to get othert assistance to find out that I had the embolisms in my lungs). because Brett adamitted to him that he had experimented with a few drugs some time previously told the Psychiatrist that Brett was an ongoing drug user. Brett believes that she antagonised him purposly, to make him upset, then told hiom he was a very angry person and called in her bodyguards. For several years he has seen nobody for his mental health problems, but sees and African GP in the Ipswich region, whom Brett more or less tollerates and thinks is OK.
I don't know what to expect today now - not violence - but nobody can live vertyu well or safely with all the problems and yes anger in his head. I am very concerned for his well being. I haven't said yet - Brett is on a disability pension. He seems to be developing all the health problems that I have had, CFS, Fibromyalgia, Embolisma in his lungs, A Thrombosed Jugular vein, for whioch he had trouble getting anyone to believe that he had, an inability to adjust to Warfarin ( as did
I). HJe had a motorcycle smash afetr he finidhed his apprenticeship, which he undertook with me, after he resfused to go back and finish Gr.10. I managed to get the Apprenticeship dept to agree even though his levels were below apprenticeship entry at that time. After the smash I did try to help him, but it took a long time fort his badly broken leg to mend and he had pins in it for ages and it rebroke after he left hospital. I ran a family business where I was on call 24/7 doing Industrial Electrical work for over 12 years and I had worked for others in a similar manner for all my working life. Do you have any ideas Bill Pilgrim.