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I am so sorry that you are going through this, I can imagine from the tone in your question that you are under a great deal of stress and of course we can talk about this
I think it is unfair that your family did not support you through this and instead are blaming you for something your husband did
And I would not worry too much about your husband taking away your children because you have a psychotherapist who confirmed that you do not have BPD and thus you are stable.
I think you are under an enormous amount of stress, depression, and anxiety, but then again who would not be in this situation. This is a normal reaction to what you are going through
I do not think leaving your children and family will be the best option for you because I think your children need you right now
My family says that it is not, that I bring everything on myself.
From what I read, I do not think that is the case. It was your husband's choice to leave instead of working with you through counseling to help you both repair the marriage and grow stronger together
My family and my husband say that I everything I do is wrong and that I am damaging my children irreparably.
I am sorry that they feel that way, but your therapist does not think that and your therapist is a professional in this
You say "I do not think that is the case" - to what are you referring?
I do not think that everything you do is wrong and that you are damaging your children. I think you are doing everything in your power to support your children and help them through this difficult time.
So I do not think that you are "bringing everything" on yourself here. I think your husband has to be blamed for a large part of this because he is the one that abruptly left
I am trying. I wish my family would support me. How will I deal with it if something happens to my father b/c of the stress I have put on him?
Well first off you cannot blame yourself for your Father's condition because he had PTSD not because of you and the stress of your marriage was not your fault, but your husband's undoing. I want to show you this technique that may be able to help you in regards XXXXX XXXXX shared responsibility instead of putting too much blame on yourself.
I will look at that, thanks. What do I do from here? I see my therapist on Weds, but I don't know how I am going to get through tonight, let alone till Weds. I just can't deal with the overwhelming feelings that I have here now - I feel desperate, and don't know aht to do.
Well I can show you some Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) techniques that may be able to help you. This is the most proven and evidence based therapy modality to treat anxiety and depressive symptoms. CBT has a premise that your symptoms are caused by negative thoughts, so if we change your thought process to be more positive and objective as well, then your symptoms will lessen.
Also there are some medications that can help to calm you down right now, and those are usually benzodiazepines like Ativan, Xanax, or Klonopin if you would like to get one of those from a doctor
I am willing to try anything.
So this link may help you, it contains a technique I use with patients called a thought record. It will help you keep track of any negative thoughts you have. You put the negative thought on paper, the emotion accompanying, the evidence to support it, and the evidence against it. Then I want you to come up with an alternative thought for the situation (more objective and plausible). This will help you change your way of thinking to be able to think more positive and not automatically go to a negative type of thinking.
I would rather stay away from the drugs - but who knows? Maybe I have no other choice....
In addition, these two worksheets are very good at helping lessen anxiety and depressive symptoms. It can help you focus on the big picture and the objective/positive thoughts and outcomes.
Also individuals with severe anxiety and depression have a poor coping mechanism, so this worksheet will help you develop a better coping strategy to manage your symptoms better.
In addition these books may be helpful too
I don't really have any coping mechanisim at all right now
These techniques will help you get a coping mechanism to help you through this.
If you do not like medications, which is understandable. How do you feel about natural supplements?
I know you have very few details and background info, but in your opinion, do you think I was wrong to expect my family to not continue including my husband as always?
I am not against natural supplements if they do not interfere with my anti-depressant medications.
Well for natural supplements you can take Omega-3 (Fish oil) and Glutamate and those will not interfere with your antidepressant medications.
I do not think you were wrong at all, but most importantly your husband should have communicated his desire ahead of time. He should not spring this up at the last minute.
Thank-you - I will look into those supplements. And, thanks for the links. I will certainly look at them - I need all the assistance I can get.
Because he is separate from your family, a schedule must be drawn up ahead of time and adhered to regarding the children.
Anytime, is there anything else I can assist you with or that you would like to talk about?
No, thank-you. It was just great to have someone to talk to. Without my husband and family I am on my own. I have been a stay home mom for 12 years, and don't have any close friends. Again, thank-you.
Anytime, I am glad that I was able to help you. I hope that this situation resolves soon and that your symptoms lessen swiftly for you. My goal is to provide you with excellent service, so if you ever have any further questions or concerns please do not hesitate to contact me at anytime.
You are most welcome :)
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Thank-you, I am sure that I will refer to it often. Have a lovely evening.