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How did it go?
well, she was there, she opend the door..
we say, hi and I asked her if she was ok, I told her I was worry because I dint hear from her last night.she explain to me that she was at the store then trying to get her medication but they wount give it to her and she was getting irritated..
Well irritated is her MO these days unfortunately
she told me she got food and came back home.
I asked her Flat out ( are we ok)?
Modus Operandi, it means basically that has been her behavior lately
she asked what do you mean ? I say Us, she say yesm but still trying to get over the rough part, and also It did not help I dint comunicate about the appartment..
so she say, If you not comunicating im going to let you do you thing ..
shes droping the dogs tonight...
So she was not communicating with you because she mad at you for the apartment?
I think so..
heres another thing Dr Z She had about 24 roses in her appartment, on a basin.. I went to the kitchen because I say the card you fill out when you send them you know.. and she imediately went there and got it.
she told her dad send her flowers for support
Oh, that is a little suspicious I would agree with you
I asked what Dad say, and she told me just encouragement,.
and again.. here is where I need the help, because if im trying to support her, trust her etc.. I need to let that go correct?
belive her, that the flowers where from dad.
while I was there, the pharmacy call her, and she was.. see I told you
Yes you do have to trust her and just shrug it off that the flowers are from her father
also I think she is geting tired of me saying.. is mmy fault and that im sorry..
like when I say.. I was sorry about not comunicating about the appartment
Yeah I can see that because remember she likes you to be dominant. I think you should have brought up that if she was upset with you then she should have communicated that instead of being passive-aggressive.
so im being "the nice guy"
You can still be the nice guy, but tell her when she does something wrong too
I mean.. she obiously wants to stay with me.. by me asking her .. "is everything ok with us"
also I dont think she likes to take responsability for parts in this relationship
she keep saying (dont put it on me)
example I asked her that we havent spend mutch time together.. and she said the last times i wsa there I was falling sleep and was tired.
I suggested that we should do things outside of her appartment, with she agree on
So it seems like she wants to spend time with you, that is a good thing
I think she wants to be with you too, but I think both of you have to admit your faults during these tough times for both of you to move forward
what do you think about the flowers?
she should not be hiding a note from her dad
but.. I rather think they came from her dad
Well they could have been sent by her father, she has been keeping you and her family very separate
Man.. you remember the details!you have notes or what? lol
Haha, I have a unique memory where I remember a lot
It is a just a genetic gift, no skill involved at all
well Im kind of proud of my self for not going last night..
And I think you should be proud that you did not go over there too
she did told me that.. I basically say im on my way and she was not done.
what do you think of the over all situation??
she told me this other job will be mostly days..
I think you both are working on repairing your relationship and moving forward, but it is difficult for both of you because of your schedules and her medical issues as well
But I think you personally are doing a good job
thanks man.I really love her and care for her, despite my negative thougs
today and last night was rough man
I know it was tough, but you have to trust her and believe that she is being faithful to you if you want this relationship to work
ok man.got to go just wanted to let you know a aupdate
That is good that you went over there and it seems like it was a positive meeting. I hope you both get a chance to spend time together this weekend
she told me every time I go over I get upset because we dont have intimacy..
so I have to think anbout grandma and baseball
Yes think about anything else to get you out of the mood because obviously her headaches cause her to have a low libido right now
alright.. Ill talk to you later
Good luck and God bless you as well. Have a great rest of your day
God Bless you!