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I am so sorry that you are having this issue with your libido and having sex with your partner, I can imagine how distressful this must be for you
Orgasms during sexual intercourse can get more difficult as we age this is not unusual, but because you can reach an orgasm through manual stimulation this is a good sign.
I think consulting with your sex therapist is a good idea, but I also would like to mention an antidepressant called Wellbutrin that can help you with your self-conscious issues and also can increase libido and help you achieve orgasms easier
That's all you can advise me?
Wellbutrin has been shown to help women achieve orgasms very successfully and is safer to use than hormones.
Here is a small article explaining the use of Wellbutrin for this instance
Ohhh...sorry, I did not see the part about Wellbutrin. I will ask my doctor when I see him Friday...he is not sex therapist but a Ph.d who can prescribe antidepressants. I agree re safety of using hormones...I don't like taking them. Thank you for the link. I apologize for my first response but the answer shows up in such a small window, only one line at a time appears.
Its okay and I was typing slowly too
How long will the Wellbutrin take to become effective..the usual 4 weeks or so?
Wellbutrin is very successful in helping to enhance a woman's sex life, especially older woman too.
Usually 4-6 weeks to start noticing the benefits and then 8-12 weeks to get the maximum benefits of it
I think I may have shut down in some ways when I experienced the trauma (loss of loved ones, family/estate issues involving hatred from them toward me and having to hire an attorney, to try to encapsulate it). While I am not feeling "hot and the usual titallating feelings" when we are in bed, I am totally "into" it all, especially when he talks to and compliments me. I'm not faking it but it's jusr different than the usual "heat." I think maybe I may be having a "normal" relationship for once in my life!
Well that is great that you are in a normal relationship that is a good sign. Yeah you may be going through that shock from the trauma and I think seeing a therapist will definitely help with that for the long term, but I think the Wellbutrin can jump start things as it will benefit your psychological symptoms and also will benefit your physical ones too (e.g. orgasm). Then after some time when the therapy really starts to be more effective, you can choose to wean off the Wellbutrin as you may not need it anymore. The Wellbutrin is just mean to get you over this "hill" you are facing right now.
OK, will ask my doc on Friday for some, I am sure he will agree. Would you say the fact I want to please this man in every way (as well as myself, too..I'm not stupid! and I so enjoy his touch and everything, even tho that usual intensity isn't totally there.....am I faking it tp feel loved and appreciated after so long of not being so? I don't think so b/c I look forward to being with him again and hate it when he leaves.
No I think you said it yourself that you are in a normal relationship where this man truly appreciates you for who you are and that makes you a little nervous and self-conscious because you are not used to this and this may effect your physical intimacy with him. But I think that you do like this man a lot and this is only temporary as you better adjust and adapt to this relationship
OK, one more Q, if you will: Should I see a sex therapist specifically or should I stay with counselor I see now who is not sex therapist and I don't think she feel comfortable going there...not her area of expertise, I guess is why.
Then yes see a sex therapist as they are more qualified to discuss these issues and to help you more with them.
Sex therapists typically go through rigorous post-graduate training and this is why they are more qualified in this area.
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K, will do.
Thank you I do appreciate it, unless you had any more questions or concerns that I can assist you with today?
No thank you. I just want to be able to access it and you said it's on the JA site so that's all for now. It really helped.
Anytime, I am happy that I was able to help you and I hope that this treatment plan works well for you. My goal is to provide you with excellent service, so if you ever have any further questions or concerns please do not hesitate to contact me at anytime.
I will, thanks again Dr. Z
You are most welcome :)