Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am very sorry to know about this very frustrating and sad situation.
Could you tell me what happened 6 months ago for her to feel this unhappy towards you and your relationship?
It seems you have truly worked hard, as you described here to build this relationship and family, but on the other hand your partner has not felt her love and closeness to you growing, even when having now a child together, which uses to get couples closer and more fulfilled, many times also creating extra challenges and problems, but not necessarily undermining the very core of relationships.
not really I just think that she was spending to much time at home with are girl and I am working so much to pay the bills. I love her more then she knows she just don't talk to me much or make the effert to hold me anymore.
Has she been truly open and honest telling you what is not working for her in your relationship for you to work on it?
Then you think it's been mostly about lack of enough time for you to share and continue building your relationship because of these many life responsibilities?
No she wont talk about it much, she holds it in and dose not want to talk when I try.
What you say makes total sense, many couples face similar challenges, but it needs to change, and for that both partners need to feel they truly need , want and are willing to work on it, otherwise it would not work.
What do you think the right steps forword would be
She will be getting busier with her job, besides of the work around taking care of your daughter, then how does she plan to keep the relationship and family together if chooses to withdraw this way?
You would need to reassess your core needs and expectations in this relationship, and then talk to her, assertively confronting any unhealthy behavior that could not help you to take good care of it and of your family. You need to be very clear about what you need and expect from each other, setting clear boundaries around what would help you and what is just unhealthy, and what you are truly willing to work on and offer for your life together to work, for the distance between you not to increase, but for you to build further closeness, intimacy, trust and to enjoy your life as a healthy and fulfilling couple, which requires time and effort with each other and together as a family.
I after you do this she still shows having a hard time to open up and discuss these serious issues, then couples counseling or therapy would be the best way to get professional support to work on it. Obviously, she would need to be willing to actively participate of such process, otherwise it would be helpless.