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Hello I believe I can help you with your concern
I am very sorry that you are not getting your physical needs met with your current partner.
While I definitely think that you should be getting your physical needs met, I think finding another woman to achieve this may cause more problems for you unless your partner is okay with it, then there is nothing wrong with this behavior at all.
Is my problem unusual? I am young looking for my age, very young in outlook and my libido seems to be on the increase rather than waning.
No your problem is actually quite common actually.
My partner is incredibly jealous and would be wearing my balls as earrings if I had an affair!!
Before trying to look for other women though it is possible that your partner's low libido can be corrected. Also some women around this age do lose their libido and sometimes sexual intercourse is uncomfortable for them. If sex is uncomfortable due to vaginal dryness there are prescription medication lubricants that can help with this. Also a low dose of testosterone can be prescribed for your partner and that can increase libido. In addition, there is a prescription anti-depressant that has been known to increase libido in women as well.
Here is a good article on this subject too for your wife.
I am unable to talk to my partner on the subject; I have tried on many occasions but she will not discuss it.
Why will she not discuss it?
No idea...and not for want of trying to find out
Well you can try to suggest couple's therapy and maybe she will open in that forum and if not, then you can try having an affair to have your physical needs met, but like I said earlier an affair may cause more problems for you and I am sure you have weighed the pros and cons of this approach. But it is very normal for men your age to continue to have a high sex drive while their partner's lose their sexual libido (this usually occurs to women after menopause).
I mean there are great medications out there to increase her libido with a high success rate, but if she is not willing to try them that is unfortunate.
Many thanks for your comments; I will try again.....