We have a grandaughter -"Ava" age 6 who is a very well balanced and very socially alert and seemingly gifted child.
Unfortunately, her mother (age 35) has filed for a divorce from our son (age 39)
The question relates to the fact that the wife's mother (Grandma Devon) has a very strong pattern of having the 6 year old sleep with her on about 2 to 3 nights per week during which our grandaughter stays with "Grandma Devon." The grandmother in question is approx age 60 and has a husband in the same house. He leaves the bedroom when our grandaughter sleeps over. There is NOT any suspected imporper behavoir, but the opinion of my wife --- (an RN / plus junior college nurse instructor and M.S. in Nursing /Nurse Midwifery - Columbia University / Einstein School of Medicine, NYC) --- is that sleeping
with the grandmother is counterproductive to the development of a 6 year old.
We are very much aware that the wife / mother has in the past had very substantial drug and alcohol problems plus multiple arrests for theft from employers along with multiple arrests for drugs and DWI. (County court records office)
She seems OK ?? now but she has taken a boyfriend and produced a new baby (from the boyfriend ) and has taken over the house which our son paid $45,000 down and on which he did
extensive improvement work.
The basic question: Is a 6 year old sleeping with a grandmother rather than having her own bed considered to be unusual and / or counterproductive to the development of a 6 year old ?