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How are things?
I don't know.. I know im stress.. do after last night, I was waiting for her to txt or call, remember, I had the dogs so I was thinking "she will call or maybe she went to work again.. So no communication until this am when I called her
And what happened after you called her?
she was sleeping.. and does not feel well due to allergies.
Well that is possible
so I went and drop the dogs off.. and I stay for about 5-10 mins.. usually I wen she close the door I give her a kiss and this time we just say Bye.. and she say see you later, I will work again tonight and I say ok drop the dogs again..
so when I left.. she was at the Balconi and on a Sarcastic tone of voice she say "BYEE"
so when I left she txt "drive save.."I offer her to bring her fav food and she say yes.. so I txt her I was on my was and call her once at 3 then just now.. and nothing... not even responded to my last txt when I was going by.. I end up turning since she dint answer..
So is this A test?
should I txt her?I don't want to be pushy and also not a hard ass to push her away more if she is ..
so Im Anxious due to this
by this time I usually heard from her letting me know shes coming by to drop the dogs and nothing
She have could have been sleeping and that is why she did not respond to your text, may allergy medicines can make you drowsy, so that may have occurred for her. Let her text you back.
But.. she was supposed to work tho.. unless she got cancel..
and yes she is taking meds
Still just let her text you back, try to play that you had other things to do anyway. This will show that just because she did not respond to you, you did not let if effect you
I wonder if shes testing me ? I guess I have to wait, because if she does not txt and I txt and I txt her, I will asked what happend
I know, she may be testing you or just really tired from work and from the medicine. Best bet is to wait, texting her and asking her will not change anything right now. Let her come to you, try to keep busy and show her that you are doing other things too in your life and that you are not waiting by the phone for her to respond
when In real life Im lol
what do you think about that "Bye" in a sarcastic mode?
I know, but this will help you if you do stay busy. And if you cannot do that then try to make a perception that you are busy
Well she could have made it in a sarcastic mode because you did not try to kiss her goodbye
and that's exactly what I always do.. and dint do it this time..
And she was teasing you on that and probably also a little disappointed too. Her being sarcastic was showing you that she was not happy and this was her passive agressive way of doing it.
at this point should I txt are you bringing the Dogs? or anything or just wait?
Just wait. Remember you are trying to create a perception that your life does not revolve around her and that there are other important things in your life
ok..Today I felt .. Dissapointed and ashame of my self for what I did.. Honestly.
waiting for her that night,,,
Do not feel ashamed or disappointed about yourself, that will just make it worse. Remember focus on the present and not the past.
also I lost some weight and being more cranky at work..
Yeah that sounds like you are stressed
I really feel Bad for what I did.. I wanted to tell her,.,, but she knows already
Well like I said you should not dwell on it and focus on the present and how you will not repeat the behavior
by this point she should be at work.. so I guess not dogs
Dr Z MI being to hard on her or myself?
*no pet sitting
Well she may have called in sick and not gone to work, which makes sense. I think you are being hard on yourself and this causes you to get stressed/anxious about her
she knows I have her food too... so that's why I say..I called twice.. have her food.. so the ball is on her court??
Yes she knows and the ball is in her court to call you, you have done all you could right now.
If she does not call or text tonight, then you can text her tomorrow
and say what.. and how.. cause I don't want to say it on the wrong way and cause a argument
Good morning :) How are you feeling? I did not hear from you yesterday
Thats all you have to say
Im afraid entering into the Friend zone and also pushig her away.. another thing.. the M.com porofile is gone.. not It could be hiddien.. or gone
I feel she knows she has me wrap around her finger ....
She would tell you if you were entering the friend zone and she wouldnt have made a remark on how you did not kiss her goodbye if she wanted to be in the friendzone
I think she does too, but I also think she does not want this at all
She wants you to be more independent and not dependent on her
does not want what at all??
She does not want you to be wrapped around her finger, she wants you to be independent too
I think I have to confess this to you and I think this will give you a better puicture.. she likes to be dominated in bed, numerous times she as told me that.So I feel like the B@#$ and her the strong one sometimes lol
She is into that and she likes to be in control and she wants you to be confident too. She probably wants you to have more confidence too outside of the bedroom, that is why she does not want you to be wrapped around her finger.
Just try to distract yourself and not let the anxiety get to you
well.. I can tell you that sometimes I feel over confident.. Im a good catch I been told even By her.. so not that.
Yeah but you are not confident when it comes to your relationship because you are worried that she may be seeing other guys, because of how you got hurt in past relationships.
true.. have to say, that I wonder if she has my replacement already.. putting things together.. a profile online ,, going out that night..
Im just being open and honest because If I do this I think my changes of you helping me more are greather
Remember you cannot focus on that, she would not act the way she does with you if that is what she is doing.
She wants to be with you and make the relationship work
Im doing anything Wrong? was not giving her a kiss a bad move? she sense it obiously...
Do not dwell on this, it is a minor thing. Just say that you felt that she may not have been in the mood for a kiss because she did not feel well
well.. haven't heard from her..
And like I said she may be resting, sleeping, and too exhausted to text. Just be patient and distract yourself, you cannot be by the phone all the time
I think im going to the movies :)
Good, that will be perfect for you!
one more thing.. do you think shes is doing this as a retaliation? I know you just stated the above...
Its possible, she may be a little mad, but this is minor and if she was doing this in retaliation then that is very petty of her.
for being 32 yes
but also im looking my self in the mirror here too lol
But we do not know if that is the case, like I said she was not feeling well and she may just be exhausted. Go to the movies and keep your mind off this :)
You will be fine, she will call or text you soon
Man I do not want to be like this lol I hope this retraining comes quick!
Give it time, but you are going to have to keep on practicing too
alright.. my stomach is sour dude..
That is the anxiety, go to the movies and not think about your girlfriend, and you will feel better
Im trrying this new tea.. passionflower
heard of it?
I hope it helps you
I am not a big tea drinker, so no I have not
Ok.. well thanks Dr Z Will keep you post it
Definitely, best of luck to you :)