Hello I believe I can help you with your concern
I am so sorry to hear about your wife's anorgasmia, I can imagine how distressing this must be for you and for her
I would like to ask a couple questions to get some more information, so that I can better assist you
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Has she always had this condition?
Has she been evaluated by a medical doctor at all?
Up until getting married 4 months ago, she never attempted any kind of sexual activity
She has had regular physical's but nothing related to her anorgasmia
And I know this is a personal question, but she has never achieved an orgasm from self-stimulation before?
No your fine, and no she hasn't
she never attempted self stimulation prior to marriage, but has since we've been married
we also bought a hitachi magic wand which she has tried on her own several times and with me
but not with any luck
And you mentioned that she had regular physicals, when was the last time she had her hormone levels checked because a hormonal imbalance can cause these issues as can diabetes as well
Great question. I'm not sure. I will definitely follow up on that
And has she had any pelvic damage at all growing up, injury, etc...?
She doesn't have any issues with diabetesthat I know of
None that I know of
on the pelvic damage that is
Anything else you can think of?
Okay that is good news, if it is simple hormonal imbalance, this can be corrected. Also some women with anorgasmia have actually had success using the medication Sildenafil (Viagra). Even though this medication is primarily for men it can benefit some women as well as shown in a few studies
Also the antidepressant medication Wellbutrin has been shown to treat anorgasmia in women as well and can actually increase a women's sex drive (libido) too, which will make it easier for a woman to achieve orgasm
What kind of medical professional would be best to consult on the hormonal levels?
Now most likely though, this is a psychological issues with your wife and I would actually recommend seeing a sex therapist in your area to help her.
Oh the best for her would be going to a OB/GYN or Endorcrinologist
thank you :)
I can also recommend therapists in your area that specialize in sex therapy because I am assuming this is a psychological issue
Should we go to therapist together or on her own?
That seems most likely to me as well...
Which ever your wife feels most comfortable with. I think going to together would be the most beneficial for you two because then she knows that you are supporting her with this
She has a really rough time focusing, like she has 1000 things going on in her mind all the time
on board with that
Stress can cause theses issues as well for women.
And another personal question, but how is your emotional intimacy with your wife?
not as deep as we would like
we are crazy about each other, but are very different and do struggle to connect as deeply emotionally as we would like
Sometimes emotional intimacy can lead to a lack of orgasm or physical intimacy in the bedroom as well. I think the therapy will benefit both of you and will help you both connect more on an emotional level. Also here is a really good book that can help with that too
Sometimes doing the little things helps a lot, like listening to her, learning to make her favorite meal, going out to places that she really wants to go, etc...
sounds good, just bought it on kindle
I think I do pretty good that way, I do feel like there is something more going here, but of course all of those things will help
Another thing that I have patients try is to go out as a couple to a place they have never been or tried and to experience new things. For example go to a pottery class together if you have never tried pottery. It can be fun and spontaneous
she just just feel much during sex or any kind of stimulation
Well she also has not explored herself before marriage, so that can cause this too because maybe she does not know what she likes. A sex therapist can help with this too
I think this a good approach for you and your wife, checking out medical reasons or psychological reasons for this. I am leaning towards the psychological issues though
Did you want me to look in your area for qualified therapists that can provide sex therapy for you and your wife?
Sounds like a good approach to me
that would be very helpful
Sure, what is your zip code so I can look in your specific area
Oh okay, I went to my doctoral program in Los Angeles. Give me a few minutes to compile a good list for you.
Okay these four therapists are Certified Sex Therapists, which means they went through extra training after they graduated, so they are the best to provide you and your wife with treatment regarding her issues.
Sorry I meant three
Now this other therapist I know personally and she has extensive knowledge in sex therapy and she is very good too
Is there anything else I can assist you with tonight?
I don't think so
BUT i really appreciate your help!
A sincere thank you
and one LAST HONEST question
Do you REALLY FEEL the therapy is worth it and can have a real and lasting impact?
Sure you can ask me anything :)
Yes therapy with the right therapist is very beneficial for this issue and can definitely be long lasting. Now if her issues are hormone related, then of course therapy will not do anything because this is a physical cause, which is why I recommended the dual approach. But if this is a psychological issue I think seeing a therapist will benefit you and her greatly and will bring you two closer together
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Anytime, I am always happy to help. I wish you and your wife the best of luck with everything. My goal is to provide you with excellent service, so if you ever have any further questions or concerns please do not hesitate to contact me at anytime.