I believe I can help you with your concern
I am so sorry that this child has been exhibiting these signs of obsession with video games and not respecting his mother
I would like to ask a couple questions to get some more information, so that I can better assist you
May I ask for how long has this child been obsessed with videogames?
And are there other parts of the child's life that have bee impacted by behavior (e.g. not spending as much time as he can with friends, grades dropping, negative behavior in class, etc...)?
Also how long does the child typically play the video games?
it has been going on for over a year. i can keep it somewhat under control if it is very strictly monitored. he does tend to want to just do that, have to force him sometimes to get out of the house. Most days he only gets an hour although sometimes when i want a lazy day i let him play longer. no misbehaving in school but today after I told him he had to do his homework before he got any video time he went outside and threw a rock at my car and broke the back window out...ugh
at a loss on how to get attitude under control and have no idea how to affectively discipline for this anymore
I am so sorry that he is behaving in this way and that anger at throwing a rock at your car is definitely serious and a sign that he is escalating. There is a new novel term being used to describe this and this is called Video Game Addiction, because it definitely appears he has an addiction to these video games. I want to provide you with some links that may be able to explain this in further detail for you
Now there are no true treatment approaches for this that have been established because this is still new and tough to understand fully. But the consensus is that you have to treat it like any other addiction and cut him off completely from video games and let him reestablish himself away from the video games.
I would also like to recommend a good treatment book for addictions too. While it is not geared towards vidoegame addiction, because there are no reputable treatment books out there with peer reviewed research, I still think this will help you
Also if possible I would like to recommend a good therapist that can help him too for his video game addiction because there are some therapists that specialize in this. And if not then there are definitely therapists that specialize in addictive issues over a broad range of topics that I can recommend for you
i agree that he is addicted. have been saying that for a year. so cut him off is the plan. is that enough of a consequence for the rock incident?
No it is definitely not enough of a consequence for the rock incident, this will just curb his addiction. For the rock incident you can do multiple things depending on your style of parenting...some will have him do chores over a period of time till he earns enough money to pay off the damage he did, others will also ground him for a certain period of time as well. So there is no right answer hear regarding what consequences he should have it depends on your style of parenting, but I think it does have to be an addition to the taking away the video games
Sure I will take any recommendations you have! Glad to hear I am not the only one that thinks he needs to see a therapist. Been mentioning it to my husband since this summer
Yeah I think because he is escalating it would be a good idea. May I ask what your zip code is so I can search in your area?
Once we are done and I rate you am I allowed to view our conversation to show it to my husband? 59840
Yes you can totally still view this conversation after you rate me. It will be saved in your JA account under My Questions forever. Give me a few minutes to compile a list for you
Good luck we in little big Montana
Well you are right there were not that many choices, but I did find one Video Game Addiction Specialist in your area. Her is the first link that I will give you . And the other two links I will provide for you are addiction specialists, so they can help too most likely.
Is there anything else I can assist you with tonight?
No I think that will help tremendously
Anytime, I am always happy to help. I hope he gets better with this addiction swiftly. My goal is to provide you with excellent service, so if you ever have any further questions or concerns please do not hesitate to contact me at anytime.