I am concerned my fiance is suffering from major depression or something similair & that he has battled this for years without knowing. I feel that he may have used recreational drugs to 'avoid/hide' the symptoms for many years (prior to meeting me). His symptoms include (for the past 3 years at least): total loss of libido, lack of interest in friends & family, I feel like I have to 'push' him to do fun activities (he would rather watch tv ALL day), always feeling tired/run down - even when he hasn't been doing much, over sleeping
& also disturbed sleeping (nightmares
, talking in his sleep, tossing & turning, waking & not going back to sleep), lying to me to avoid confrontation/consequences, lethargy & not helping around the home, avoiding all responsibilities (bills, fines etc) unless forced to face them, constant moodiness, agitation, anger, agression... I could go on. He also has a history of gambling & also of wanting to spend spend spend (on clothing, gadgets...) when we can't afford it, & he would get very agitated at me for pointing out reality. He also has 'random' moments of hightened mood & energy & unrealistic ideas/plans for the future, he suddenly has high self esteem, almost as if he has taken a drug (but he hasn't), and then he goes back to his 'down' state where he just lacks all self esteem & motivation.