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Hello I believe I can help you with your concern
May I ask why did your son not want to move in with your boyfriend initially?
We had lived with him before and we moved out because things were stressful
My boyfriend is older and has a old fashioned mentality when it comes to turning off lights and what not
Oh, so your son just felt like he would not be happy if he lived with you and your boyfriend for an extended amount of time because of his behavior
Would your son still visit you and stay over often?
he said he would even if I moved
he does not hate my boyfriend, just doesn't like him enough to live there again
I am struggling to figure out how to pay off my credit card bills before summer when he moves, moving in with my boyfriend (who wants me there) would help immensely with that
I understand that, I do not think this will be harmful to your relationship with your son, just the act of moving. Now when you do live with him, and your son visits you should try to make it feel like a warm an friendly environment for your son, so that he feels like family and not a guest. This will help him adapt better
Yeah and your son may not understand finances as well at his age. So I think your relationship with your son will not be impacted greatly from this move.
of course. my boyfriend really likes my son
so it is not being selfish to be looking out for myself for when he leaves
Yeah I think this just your boyfriend and your son's personalities clash is all, but this can easily be managed for short duration visits
Since there is not resentment towards the other, I see no reason why this should be a problem with you and your son
my ex will not have much say since he will be getting my son in the summer, right?
No, he should not get much say about this. If your boyfriend is a stand-up guy which no major issues (e.g. alcohol, abuse, etc...) then your ex should have no problem with it either
well he did when my son mentioned it to him. he threatened custody, but my son decided he wanted to live with his dad for High School after that no matter what
Well he can threaten custody, but if he cannot prove that the environment is harmful for the child, which it is not, then there is nothing he can legally do about it
I was just concerned that I was being selfish
Thank you very much for your advice
I do not think you are being selfish at all, you are trying to be considerate about your son's feelings and you even talked to him about it before hand, that shows you are a good parent
Anytime, I am always happy to help. Is there anything else I can assist you with?
thank you, I needed to hear that
no, just want to make sure I am doing the right thing
You are definitely doing the right thing, no worries there.
Thank you again
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I will. good night Dr. Z
Good night :)