Hi, i have been wondering about this question for a very long time and cant make sense of a crimminal event involving my cousin, thats recently happened. There is a long back story so bear with me.
Basically, prior to this 'event', me and my cousin have been having troubles. She complained about how poorly she was treated in singapore by our uncle and asked if she could spend Christmas and New Years in aus with me and my family where we live. I said of course, wanting to help, even though it was an inconvenient time. I helped pay for some of her costs because she said she was struggling financially and i was excited to introduce her to everyone i knew. During the stay she started complaining to my friends about how i dont take her out enough and they jokingly told me i hav to take her out more. This made me angry and i told her one on one later that i wasnt ok with that. She pretended that she didnt know she was complaining and assured me she wasnt and that she was just not thinking when she said all that, so i dropped it.
She left for singapore shortly after and when she was back in singapore she suddenly told me she decided she wants to move to aus to study and wants to move asap (in 2weeks) and asks if she can stay with me and my mum. I was highly affronted and said I'll ask my mum and when i did
mum said no way because its too last minute and we're so busy etc. from there on sparked a long war.
My cousin held a grudge against me because she believed i promised her she could stay if she ever wanted to move to aus and everyone was judging us for not opening our house to her. She was also angry that i wasnt encouraging enough about her sudden move. I was all for her having ambitions but i knew she was moving because she had a crush on one of my best mates who is like a bro to me but he alreay told me he saw her as just a friend. She complained about me to our other family and they didnt talk to me fwhen i visited. When i asked why, they mentioned something about her which i didnt really get either. I just caught her name in their ramble. When she moved to aus she moved to live with a friend of mine and complained to that friend that she was scared of me that i would give her problems if she came to a music fetival with us. This led to that friend yelling at me and telling me to 'stop giving her shit'. I was angry at that friend for yelling at me without asking me properly for my side and i also asked my cousin what was going on. She pretended she didnt say anything again, then later admitted she did say something but that friend took it the wrong way and misunderstood and its not her fault. Then she didnt do anything more on the matter sayin its not her problem or her fault. I told her i didnt trust her even though i wish i could.
I finally saw her face to face on a mutual friends birthday party and because she wasnt very comfortable there by herself i helped her find drinks and included her in group convos and games etc. i didnt trust her but i still love her as my cousin. Then i i suddenly fell really sick from my final drink (i was convinced to have one last drinking game before i left and that last one did it for me) i basically ran to the toilet to throw up and this guy followed me there and while i was throwing up he was putting his hands down my pants etc. he carried me out later because someone broke down the door in a drunken for and i threw up on the floor outside.. Next thing i know, both that guy and my cousin were waking me up and telling me i HAD to go. I was still sick so i ignored them and let him carry me out of the house. He puts me in a car and my cousin passed him my stuff and he drove off. I remember being carried to another place and i thought my cousin was still with us and i threw up on the floor again and passed out. Next morning i woke up and realised i had been raped by him and he kept telling me my cousin was awesome and really helpful and i didnt know how to respond. I kept quiet and just thought very hard trying to make sense of everything because it was all so bizarre and surreal. In the car when he was driving me home, i finally asked him the hard question and asked why he took my. Pants off and stuck it in when i was passed out. He looked angry and didnt answer then started retaliating saying its not like he forced me down etc. so i tried to calm him down and said im not accusing him but he has to understand that its not ok to take someone pants off when theyre sleeping
. He finally conceded and said yeh i get what u mean. I made him stop the car a block away and ran home. Then i msgd my cousin asking her bout her side and she kept sayin she was just drunk. I found out she msgd my mum on my phone pretending to b me as well. Later the cops showed me her statement where she said i consented.
She never called, she still parties with my friends and i dont understand. Its all so unbelievable, im scared of her but everyone else says im crazy. Duno what to think/feel