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This is a heart wrenching case of over-reaction and incompetency, in my estimation.
People have suicidal thoughts but if they have to real plans, do not have the means, or have made no attempts, then these thoughts require talk therapy and counseling, not doses of antipsychotic medication which can leave her in a position of having to be weaned off of them.
She is also being subject to the side effects of these medications.
Doctors often practice CYA (cover your a_ _) in order to avoid possible future lawsuits. If a patient were to kill themselves the doctor can then show that he gave antipsychotic drugs. These drugs may have rendered her too pacified to kill herself or do anything beyond that.
There was no need for a nine-day stay in the hospital, according to your accounting of the situation, which I take as an accurate one.
She cannot wean off of these drugs cold turkey but she can wean off of them slowly.
Your pharmacist should be able to provide you with the proper withdrawal schedule for these drugs to prevent withdrawal effects, which can be serious.
I hear about cases like this much too often, and though I am a professional, they still anger me for they are ultimately abusive.
If she weans off of them slowly, then she will recover.
What she does need is an empathetic, caring, and intelligent therapist who can help her work through her teenage angst. Perhaps her trouble was with a breakup, or with a teacher, or something similar.
Adolescent girls can be very fragile, and they need gentle talk therapy, and not the sledgehammer approach of using powerful psychotropic drugs.
I am so sorry this happened, but she will recover and hopefully find someone she can talk to, probably an experienced female therapist with lots of empathy and who likes working with adolescents.
My prayers are with your family.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, CCMHC, NCC